Kiss Him Like You MEAN It! Final Week of Marriage Challenge

Seriously – where did the summer go? I am sad this is the last week of our challenge because this also means summer is coming to an end!!! But next Monday there will be one more linky with this series. I’m looking for feedback and I will ask the question:
How did your husband respond to the summer challenge? What was the most difficult part of the challenge for you and is there anything that you think would have made this challenge better?

All those who link up their blog post OR (for non-bloggers) – comment in the comment section, will be entered to win a Vintage Pearl Marriage Necklace! Check mine out!!!

It says our names and then around the outer circle it says “I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine.” I’ll give you more details about the giveaway next Monday! (note: this giveaway does not start today – it starts next Monday, August 16 )

This weeks challenge could be your husband’s favorite – I know it’s my husband’s! This is a cherry on top of a great summer of warm love and respect expressed.

The challenge: “Kiss him like you mean it!”

Sex is a basic physical and emotional need that men have. God designed our men this way. It’s a good thing! Not only do they need it often but they need to know that they are desirable (just as we wives need to know this).
A lot of wounds can take place in this area of our marriage if we are not careful. Too much rejection from either spouse can lead to bitterness.
So here’s a few action items:
1. Remember every man is different. Ask your husband if there’s any improvements he’d like to see in this area.
2. Listen. If you husband has already expressed some frustration, listen to what he has shared and think about ways you can make a change. Baby steps are fine – just open your heart up to change.
3. Make sex a priority. Plan to have it. Don’t let life get so busy that you neglect this area in your marriage.
4. If this part of your love life has gotten boring, take time to spice it up a little. Plan something nice like putting on something you feel good in, giving him a back rub, taking a shower together, lighting candles and turning on music. Take time to make a special moment then…Kiss him like you mean it! You can guarantee he will walk taller. Paula Rinehart says sex is like a silent cheer! It just builds our man up!
Treasure these moments with your husband…you will never have these days of your youth back. Enjoy your man and let him know that he is enjoyed. Is there anything greater than knowing that someone enjoys you?
Song of Songs 5:16 says His mouth is sweetness itself; he is altogether lovely. This I my lover, this my friend.”

Build your man up tonight with some sweetness and kiss him like you mean it!

Walk with the King!


  1. Bobbi Janay says

    I love this post, everything said here has been said to me by my Dad and Stepmom numerous times. I am going to subscribing you your blog.

  2. Mommy Of Two Little Blessings says

    I like the necklace too. So glad I am in the running for it. *smile* Though I am not one to win many things, it is a nice necklace. Sincerely, Mommy of two little blessings & so much more!

  3. momstheword says

    I love the title about kissing him like you mean it! How many times do we just give him a peck so that we can get back to doing the dishes, folding the laundry, or reading a good book, etc.

    It can be so easy to take our spouses for granted, and we need to be intentional so that we don't!

    Thanks for linking up to Making Your Home Sing Monday!

  4. GlowinGirl says

    EVERY area of our lives can become routine — it's good to be intentional about sex too. Thanks for the reminder!

  5. My Heart Song says

    Another great post, Courtney. I've enjoyed this series and been challenged by it. Thanks!
    Shannon in Indiana <><

  6. Kelley with Amy's Angels says

    I had this conversation with my husband just this weekend! I was in the kitchen, writing out the last of the grocery list and he was standing there. I looked up and said, "What?" He said, "Well, I was waiting for you to finish so I could kiss you!" I put down my pen and said, "Honey, I'm your wife, and your my husband. That means you can kiss me any time you want. So, don't just stand there and wait–get over here and do it!"

    While we've been together over 5 years, we were married back in May, so right now it feels like we're learning this kind of stuff all over again for some reason.

    But I agree…kiss him like you mean it (and vice versa!).

  7. Anonymous says

    CJ, I have really enjoyed this challenge this summer (although I am not a blogger). I love your necklace. That would be such fun to win!

    Keep up the great blogs!
    love ya,

    Aimee McF

  8. Anna says

    Ooh, that is a beautiful necklace. I almost want to go buy one. :)

    It's been great reading along with this challenge, Courtney!

  9. Homemaker Honey says

    Courtney, I'm so looking forward to kissing my man like I mean it when I return home to him in Australia. I am still in the States.

    Oh, and that's chapter 5 verse 16 in Song of Solomon.

    Thank you for this series.

  10. Brooke D says

    What a wonderful way to end this series! I am looking forward to this too! :) Again, thank you for your ministry!

  11. Julie@comehaveapeace says

    Last year Proverbs 31 magazine had an article about a 6 second kiss (I think that was how many πŸ˜‰ ), and it was so challenging. Too often in a busy day, I think we do a "peck" instead of a passionate kiss that really "communicates." And even though we focus most on the need men have for sex, I really believe women are built to need that physical intimacy, too. It may impact us in different ways, but we really do need it to experience the oneness of our marriage.

    Great way to end the challenge!

    Glad you added it to Marriage Mondays today.

  12. Melissa says

    Thank you, Courtney, for this awesome post! I am a mom of 5 kids aged 13 to 5, and I am so busy…that I often leave my hubby for last. This post really convicted me..thank you..thank you!

  13. The Working Home Keeper says

    Great post! With the kids, the house and work, it is too easy to put those things last. Thanks for the reminder to make it a priority. I've really enjoyed this series!

    Mary Ellen

  14. Toni says

    Courtney, I am SO thankful to have found your blog (via FunMom). I was not raised to view marriage from the standpoint of traditional roles, nor was that our initial marriage experience. But with God's leading, we have stepped into those well fitting roles more and more over time. However, it has been without support from extended family.

    I am SO happy to be a SAHM (we homeschool too, btw), and a helpmate to my husband. I really adore serving him and my family, and feel very fullfilled in my homemaking roles (I too am an educated woman who is home by choice, previously working in the airline industry for many years, as well as serving others as a cardiac registered nurse).

    THANK YOU for this message today, and for all you do to support women in traditional God-led roles at home.

  15. Julie M says

    Ok, I have been told. I WILL remember to avoid turning slightly or cutting short advancements from my husband!! lol. Seriously, you have blessed me so much (my husband too) with this series. I usually cover myself completely but one day I decided to go for it (inspired by one of you posts from months ago) I allowed my husband to see me in all of my glory, ha ha. Well, the next morning I got a lovely text from him to say how much he had appreciated me, he ha a twinkle in his eye for a couple of days. Who would have thought that just by being prepared to be enthusiastic, so much could be enjoyed. Our marriage is sizzling, I adore my husband and he adores me but our marriage has been far from perfect. We celebrate 15 years of marriage on Thursday and I have a treat for him that he will enjoy very much. Thank you for opening up this topic, God created sex and it is for us to enjoy. Don't let satan tarnish it like so many other aspects of life. Well done Courtney. Bless you for your ministry.
    Julie x

  16. Jess says

    Courtney have you ever listened to Mark Driscoll's "The Peasant Princess" sermon series on Song ofSongs? I listened to the whole thing this weekend – it was SO good! And many times throughout the series, I thought "I bet Courtney from WLW would totally agree" or "This sounds just like what Courtney teaches in her blog"! It's good stuff!

  17. Elizabeth says

    found your blog through being refined as silver. thanks for the great reminder! our love life took a huge hit since the baby (he's 1), but it has just been getting back on track. our marriage is doing so much better now!

  18. Christie S.E. Blackwood says

    My husband and I have been married for 5 years this week. :) I would love to win the necklace too. :) Many blessings!

  19. Courtney (Women Living Well) says

    Thanks for the feedback guys!!! We should have happy husbands tonight right? lol!!!

    Jess – you are the second one to recommend this to me – I think it's time I find it and have a listen – thanks!

  20. Heather says

    My hubby would SO appreciate this – if he were home tonight. Though we've been having some trouble lately, we hope to be getting back on track soon.

  21. FunMom says

    What a great post! The meaningfulness of a kiss carries so much weight, especially from a wife…powerful!

    Thanks for the encouragement!

  22. Yvonne says

    Another great reminder! I find myself cutting short kisses and hugs because I am "too busy" with housework or kid stuff. This is a great reminder to me to take time to cultivate the marriage garden.

    The necklace is so sweet! I hope I win!!!

  23. mellibee says

    I think that kisses and hugs are very important to our husbands. They are quick ways to reconnect throughout the day. Great post and Great series! :)

  24. Becky says

    Loved this week's challenge. And what an important reminder to keep this part of our marriage on the front burner!

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