Proverbs 12:4 says, “A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown”
God’s word says that a wife of noble character is her husband’s crown. In this context, Matthew Henry says it means:
”A virtuous woman, that is pious and prudent, ingenious and industrious, that is active for the good of her family and looks well to the ways of her household, that makes conscience of her duty in every relation, a woman of spirit, that can bear crosses without disturbance, such a one owns her husband for her head, and therefore she is a crown to him, not only a credit and honour to him, as a crown is an ornament, but supports and keeps up his authority in his family, as a crown is an ensign of power. She is submissive and faithful to him and by her example teaches his children and servants to be so too.”
Wow! That’s quite a list to chew on isn’t it!
Elizabeth George describes a noble wife in this way:
“God’s beautiful woman is pleased to be her husband’s crown.
Shunning the spotlight, she gladly gives her life behind the scenes so that her husband may be noticed and honored. She is glad when he is the center of attention, when he excels, when he is recognized, when he rises to the top.
Indeed, she delights in living in his shadow.
His promotion is her greatest reward. She desires that her husband be highly respected and esteemed, so she contentedly offers the supreme sacrifice of herself for him.”
—Elizabeth George, Beautiful in God’s Eyes
I share these quotes because they challenge me – they move me – they point me in a direction the world does not point me. Does your husband see you as his crown? Is there anything you can change to be more like the noble woman in Proverbs 12:4?
Remember that in our own strength we can do nothing…it is when we are weak that he is strong! Let’s humble ourselves and begin to pray that God would give us the strength to pursue nobility for his glory.
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Walk with the King!
These two quotes that you shared, Courtney, are beautiful and feasible in our married lives ONLY with the help and guidance of the Lord. “We can do all things through Christ who strengthens us.” This is the fruit of the Spirit, therefore, we must not cease in seeking the Lord’s face, praying, and studying the Word.
I will read the quotes over (and over) again and chew on each word. Thank you for sharing these!
Rina
I have to thank you, again, for doing this 10 day blog series. As I have read your words I have already seen a difference in my marriage. The first day you suggested that marriages will look different because we are married to different men, and that as wives we should look to what our husband would like and what makes him happy. I am extremely embarassed to admit that I have been married for over seven years and I had *never* thought of asking my husband what he liked, and what things I could do (or stop doing) to make him happier or make his days go better.
When we were having a quiet moment I asked him what you suggested, I explained that I had read your blog, and you were talking about the differences in marriages, and I simply asked what things he liked. He looked at me in a bit of shock. He was speechless for a few moments, and asked me to clarify. I had never bothered living my role the way you see it (and God created it to be!!!!!!!!!!!) and live as his helper. So, he never really *thought* about the things that he loved or disliked. After some open discussion he mentioned things that he likes (some he loves) and things that stress him out and he would like me to work on. I was amazed- his requests were SO simple (he loves when I iron his shirts and use extra starch, and he loves when I refill the water filter). It is actually a bit heartbreaking I did not do this sooner. For the last few days I have put his “likes” as some of my top priorities, and I am amazed at how much my hubby is smiling. It is very fulfilling- I have never had this in my marriage. I don’t know if this is a new thing, I am sure that there will be evolutions in each of our likes and dislikes, but the fact that we learned a new concept in how to relate to one another is truly amazing. (He asked me my likes and dislikes as well, and our whole conversation was very eye opening!!!)
Thank you!
Hi there, I have recently discovered your blog via “Time Warp Wife” and I am really enjoying reading about practical ways to improve my marriage and family life … alongside my (new & growing!) faith.
Thank you so much for your advice and tips on showing our husbands that we care – especially through the small ‘everyday’ things. I have tried some of your suggestions already and I am already noticing such a difference in the way my husband and I communicate. We have been married for 22 years and have two wonderful teens – but we have neglected each other along the way and have fallen into the trap of bickering & arguing about the smallest things, which is very tiring and does not make for a happy home! I look forward to reading more of your ‘Godly Marriage’ series – thank you once again!
Lindsay xx
Thank you, Ms. Courtney, for allowing me to join in. I HOPE you have a great day full of sweet blessings!!!
Good morning. Thank you for another enriching post. I have some questions though,
“Indeed, she delights in living in his shadow.” – If this is truly what a godly wife should do then should none of us be blogging, speaking, or being in the public spotlight? If someone knows more about me than my husband or if I speak out and he does not does this make me ungodly? For example, my husband will want to share something at church (praise report, prayer request, etc) but he is still not comfortable speaking in public so I will do it. Is this ungodly of me because the spotlight is on me? I don’t think it is?
If God created us and gave us vision, spiritual gifts, etc we cannot stay in the shadows. Also, if we are walking with Jesus we are not in anyone’s shadow because his light….light drives out darkness and a shadow is a mixture of light and dark.
I agree that when my husband is promoted either at work or just in the course of conversation or whatnot that I do delight in seeing him being praised (and it wasn’t always that way.)
I do not think though, that living in his shadow is what God intended. I believe there is a unique parodox in serving our husband AND serving the world. We must maintain our godly submission to our husbands but we must not squelch the calling of the Lord on our lives or else who knows what eternal concenquences that may have for those we do not reach because we were afraid to draw some attention to ourselves.
No disrespect meant, just my thoughts.
Blessings,
Danielle
I love this post! The quotes challenge me too – greatly – but they are encouraging too. Thank you for being providing such a wonderful resource for Christian women here at Women Living Well. I’m excited to visit the other “10 Days” links, and thank you so much for hosting the link up. I’ve shared an archived post (updated to include a link to you) about how God brought my husband and I together even though we were born thousands of miles apart through a family connection forged two generations previously – yet another illustration of how even across huge distances and throughout the generations, God always has a plan!
“She lives in the shadows…”
That really sticks out to me, as I’ve been thinking a lot about the color grey…the shadow places of grace, which I shared about it here: http://www.moretobe.com/2011/11/04/the-grey-of-grace/
God has been imparting on my heart that the grey in life — the places that are neither black nor white — is the place of grace, where His work through trials and challenges gives dimension and depth to our lives. So now, thinking of my role as a wife, existing in the shadows of grey and grace, paints a whole new picture of my calling.
Thanks, Courtney! This is a gift to me today!
Wow! Courtney, that goes right along with what God was showing me this morning on my “Not About Me” post on my FaceBook page! Not About Me means giving God the freedom to interrupt my plans and my life – and that often comes by way of my husband!
Love your blog -i’m a follower-and this post. I stop in once a week to read what you have to say. I’d LOVE for you to come link up any of your holiday related post. I’m hosting a Holiday (Nov-Jan) Ideas, Crafts & Recipes Link up. http://cafescrapper-scrapsoflife.blogspot.com/2011/11/pumpkin-cheesecake-recipe-yum.html
Have a great day, Susie
Thanks for hosting! I posted a profile for canned salmon, a great, budget-friendly solution for good eating.
I’m trying to remove my link. I don’t see a “delete” link to click. Do I need to be visiting the page from the same IP address for it to recognize me as the contributor? Thanks.
Those two quotes are really challenging and encouraging… thank you for them. Also, I’m in the middle of the respect dare, so thanks for that lead as well. And last of all, I’ve gleaned some great nuggets from those who have linked up to you today. All in all… much thanks! Blessings as you continue to bless us… Wen
Hi Courtney!
This is so true! I remember the day that I asked my husband “What three things do you NEED done when you come home from work?”
He totally answered,
“The clutter picked up from the main living area.”
“The laptop charged so he can use it.”
“Clean “comfy” clothes.”
Dinner was a plus too
I shared my Sesame Chia Green Apple Salad.
I am loving your blog site and thankful to my daughter, Melissa Scott, author of Bones In My H=
eart) for sharing it with me. A beautiful protrat of the Proverbs 31 women. Thank you for the encouragement Women Living Well provides.
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