We began the Revive our Marriage series with prayer, then we worked on our attitude. Last week we worked on our shoulder-to-shoulder friendship and now it’s time to show our husband’s our appreciation.
Praise and respect are tied closely together. It’s difficult to praise a man you are not respecting.
Ephesians 5:33 says “Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself and the wife must respect her husband.”
This can be a difficult verse to apply because some women have husbands who are not doing the first half of this verse. Their husbands are not loving them as themselves BUT this blog is not written for men so we have to move on to the second part of this verse.
God’s command to wives is to respect our husbands – unconditionally. Our men are not boy scouts trying to earn badges of honor. God does not say – respect the husband who is “worthy” of respect. It is simply their position of ‘husband’ that we are to respect.
Dr. Emerson Eggerich says in his book “Love and Respect” that if you asked women if they’d rather their friends love or respect them – the majority would say love. But if you asked men if they’d rather their friends love or respect them – the men would answer respect. We are hard wired this way – God created men with the need to feel respected and adequate.
Think of what men will do for honor. They will take bullet shots from an enemy. While everyone is running out of a burning building, men will run up 20 flights of stairs to save lives. They will shoot the bear and laugh about it later. They are just wired this way – and isn’t it glorious that they are!
Sometimes we women “mock” the male “ego” – but it truly is tender. Deep down – there’s insecurity and they need to know that indeed they are adequate, they are enough, they are worthy of our respect.
“Women, as influencers, can breathe life into our men or kill them. Woe to us for quenching the life out of our men.”
~ Mary Kassian
Our men NEED encouragement! We NEED our men. We NEED our men to be Godly men!
Our culture has beaten Godly men down. They are going against the flow of the wordly system and take blows on every side.
1) List all the flaws of your husband.
2) List all the things that you admire about your husband.
Grade yourself: Which question was easier to answer?
There will be some women out there who find it easier to admire their husband than list his flaws. But I would venture to say that most of us find it easier to list their flaws. It’s a part of our sin nature!
So let’s break out of that mold – go against the grain of the world and praise our husbands!!! Here’s our challenge:
**Chime In: Share in the comment section what you admire about your husband! Let your husband know what you wrote – he will walk taller. 🙂
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