Some of us have husbands with very dangerous jobs like roofers, police officers, firemen, military men, loggers, fishermen, construction workers, electricians, steel workers, miners, ranchers, truckers, pilots and more.
Some of us have husbands with dangerous hobbies like skydiving, mountain climbing, white water rafting, biking, hunting, full contact sports, wood carving and more.
And let’s be honest, while our men are out slaying their dragons, our minds can wander to that place –that place where we imagine the worst case scenario.
Over the years, my husband has taken up many jobs and hobbies that have given me reasonable cause for worry.
One sport he loved back when the kids were very small was Mixed Martial Arts (MMA). After some injuries, a broken nose (as seen in the above photo –somebody missed a block from a black belt) and surgery he shelved that sport (thank goodness). But it sure did give me a lot of reasons to wring my hands in worry.
Another hobby he enjoyed since the day I met him was flying. His father was a pilot and he flew with him a lot –so he got his license at age 17. When I met him –he was already flying. The job of a pilot is ranked 3rd most dangerous in the list of most dangerous jobs of 2012 on multiple websites. My husband is not a commercial pilot but he flies for business. When the sky looks cloudy, windy, stormy, and snowy –my heart skips a beat and I say a silent prayer, “Lord, please protect Keith.” Sometimes he takes our son as his co-pilot, and I worry. How could I ever go foward in life if I lost my boys? I just couldn’t…
Then there’s truck driving that he does for His business from time to time. Just last week he drove a truck 400 miles in icy, east coast conditions and I prayed –actually we prayed. My kids are quite the little prayer warriors for Daddy.
The photo below shows my son sitting on an oversized truck that daddy had just driven home, hundreds of miles including through a large city.
How do I handle all this worry and anxiety?
1. Pray. Pray. Pray.
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6,7 NIV
As I said above, we pray a ton for Daddy. When I feel anxious –I hand it over to God. This was not a burden I was meant to carry, it’s just too much to bear somedays. I have to pray to find peace. And God is faithful and he always delivers peace just in time.
“When I am afraid, I will trust in you.” Psalm 56:3NIV
“You will keep in perfect peace him whose mind is steadfast, because he trusts in you.” Isaiah 26:3
After praying, I have to choose to trust God. I know that He is sovereign and in control of all things. If this is the appointed time for death or a trial in our lives –nothing we do, can thwart that. God is in control and will see us through the good and bad times. I can rest in knowing that my husband is in great, mighty, and loving hands.
3. Listen to praise and worship music.
“Glorify the LORD with me; let us exalt his name together. I sought the LORD, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears.” Psalm 34:3,4
I can’t worry and sing praises at the same time. Singing and setting my mind on God takes my eyes off of what I’m worrying about and sets my heart free to have peace. I have found much peace of mind through soft worship music playing in my house.
4. Know God’s Word.
“I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.” Psalm 119:11
Worry is a sin because it means that we are not trusting God. When I am in God’s word, meditating and memorizing –I have the tools to combat worry. Knowing God’s word is key to overcoming our fears and anxiety.
5.Use it to bless others
“Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.
2 Corinthians 1:3,4 NIV
God wants to use our trials to bless others. After he comforts us, he wants us to serve others by comforting them. Serving for me has been a huge outlet that has turned my trial into a joy.
“Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever.” Psalm 107:1
Everytime my husband returns safely – I give thanks. God continues to answer our prayers and I am so grateful that he does.
There are no guarantees in life. Just as I worry about my husband –there are many other causes for worry in life. I have found that the above list helps me in the face of all my trials. It’s a daily discipline of praying, trusting, worshiping, and being in God’s word that brings us through our trials with joy and peace.
**Chime In: What are you worried about today and how has God helped you find peace in the midst of your fears?