The Male Ego…It’s Complicated!

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The male ego is complicated. Women tend to “mock” how huge a man’s ego can be, but I think we forget our husband’s ego is tender. Deep down our husbands have genuine insecurities.

At one time, men competed to take down the biggest bear or to be the greatest warrior. Now many men seek the corner office or take their warrior selves to the sports arena! Women may question why men have such a need to prove themselves but often it comes from their need to feel adequate or worthy of respect.

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Comments

  1. I LOVE that you are blogging on this topic. After 28 years of being married to a strong “man’s man” who graduated from West Point – I’m so glad I figured out how much he craves affirmation – especially from ME! Our marriage almost failed twice and though once was because of betrayal – God showed me some of the reasons his heart strayed – I was not building him up as a man. Recently, my 32 year old daughter complained how her husband is always “bragging” and I told her, “He’ll stop bragging when you start telling him how great he is!” Husbands are more fragile than we realize and our words have great power!

  2. Oh Courtney – in a world that is full of hate, rudeness & “the world revolves around me attitue-” this is such a refreshing & timely lesson. If we can cultivate & grow the fruits of the spirit and what better place to start than at home, with the ones we love the most!! I know I am guiltly of “acting” nice in public and then the real me shows up as soon as I come home. Oh dear – like I said before this is so timely. I appreciate it!

  3. Wow. What a timely post. I am currently at a crossroads in my twenty-year marriage. My husband cheated and I have, in turn, been so hurt, that I have become so distrustful of him. We have been off-again and on-again so often over the past two months that it is killing me. I have to admit that after reading this, I can see where I have ignored his ego many times. We went to counseling, which was good for me, but didn’t seem to do him much good. Finding your blog was probably the most helpful for me. Since that time I have tried to praise and affirm him, but it is often difficult when he is moody and distant. He never wants to discuss our issues – and for him, the affair was meaningless and is a non-issue, but for me it is THE issue. Whenever I try to force him to talk, I feel like a shrew and catch myself saying things that I would never have even dreamed of saying otherwise. I am so torn and hurt that I don’t now what to do now. I just cannot imagine life without him, but I also cannot figure out how to work this out without sacrificing on everything while he sacrifices on nothing. Any suggestions would be most appreciated.

  4. Thanks for this timely advice on our husbands needs and ego. Sometimes as women it’s easy to forget that his ego was placed there by God, to defend and protect.

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