In Galatians 5:22 & 23 we are told that the fruit of the spirit is: “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.”
The fruit – or the outcome of following the Lord – should result in kindness being displayed in our marriage. But sometimes we produce the rotten fruit of anger, bitterness, rage, slander, and selfishness.
It is so much easier to complain than to be kind.
Webster’ Dictionary says kindness is: the quality of being friendly, generous, sympathetic and considerate. It is a genuine concern for the happiness of another.
I love this definition because it so clearly lays out what the 5 qualities a kind wife:
1. Be friendly – Be a good friend to your husband. Listen. Laugh. Hold his hand. Watch a ball game with him. Be at his side for the things that matter to him. Support him. Be his BEST friend!
2. Be generous – Be in the habit of giving generously to him without expecting anything in return. Selfless love is so rare in our culture. Live your life openhanded to your husband.
3. Be sympathetic – Show compassion toward the difficulties your husband faces. Listen to him and be understanding to his plights in life. Use caring, gentle words and pray with and for him daily.
4. Be considerate – Be careful to not hurt your husband. Be slow to speak and thoughtful about the power of your words and how they effect his soul. Part of being a good friend to him is caring about his feelings.
5. Be genuinely concerned about his happiness – the praise, respect, comfort and attention of a wife brings much strength, security and happiness to your husband.
Kindness is something that we excelled at during the dating days. We complimented our husband and pursued him. We made sure we always said thank you and told him he was appreciated. But sometimes as the years of marriage pass – kindness can turn to coldness - and we need a little nudge to ignite the fire of kindness to warm up our marriage.
We are not responsible for the happiness of our husband, but there is much we can do to contribute to his day to day joys in life by simply being concerned for him as a true friend, being generous and thoughtful of his needs, being sympathetic toward his struggles, being considerate of his feelings and by being genuinely concerned about him.
If you are a wife who is struggling with reacting coldly rather than kindly, I encourage you to go to God in prayer and in his word. Read Ephesians 4:32:
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
We cannot do this on our own strength. We need to follow Christ’s example and have our hearts warmed by the kindness of God and then allow God’s kindness to overflow into our marriage.
Do you possess the 5 qualities of a kind wife?
Let’s work on this together as we accept Week 2’s challenge of the Ignite Your Fire series.
Ignite the fire of kindness in your home this week. Be intentional about showing your husband kindness this week. Plan a date just for him, treat him to his favorite meal, honor him wiht your words, and make him feel incredibly special.
Walk with the King,
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