Valentine’s Video & Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl Giveaway!

Valentine's Day Special 5 Marriage Bloggers

I’m interrupting our regular schedule for the Book Club – for this Special Valentine’s Day Video and Giveaway!

This video was done by 5 of the ‘Top Christian Marriage Bloggers’ including:
Sheila from ToLoveHonorandVacuum.com,
Fawn from HappyWivesClub.com,
Ruth from TheBetterMom.com, and
Jennifer from UnveiledWife.com

So sit back and relax and enjoy this 10 minute video:

(if you cannot see the video - click here)

We all pin to a Pinterest Board together at “Inspiring Christian Wives” if you’d like to follow us there!

Next up – Singles (or mother’s and friends of singles) this giveaway is for you!!!!

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Paul Hendricks writes:

Remember what it was like?

As Valentine’s Day approached you wondered if a secret admirer would finally emerge from hiding. But other than a lonely carnation and chocolates from your mom (no offense mom!), you came up empty . . . again.

This Valentine’s Day, do you know a girl who aches to be in a relationship?

If so, I have just the gift for her. Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl shares my personal journey from neediness to freedom.

Thanks for sharing this gift with the girls in your life,

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Paula

Paula blogs for teen girls and women by day (onLiesYoungWomenBelieve.com and TrueWoman.com) and journals her adventures by night. Her first book, Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl: On Her Journey from Neediness to Freedom, released September 2013.

She has worked at Revive Our Hearts for nearly nine years, where she currently serve as Writing and Editorial Manager. Here are a few more God-stories of how I got where I am today.
I finished reading Paula’s book tonight and it was such a sweet, transparent, Christ-centered book.  Paula writes openly about her 28 years of ups and downs with guys and relationships.  Her heartaches pulled at my heart-strings and reminded me of those hard days of dating, waiting, and dreaming.  Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl is not a band-aid for your soul but a true healing balm as she points to true satisfaction found only in walking with the King.

 Paula is giving away FIVE Signed Copies to WLW readers {hooray!}!  Enter to win a copy for yourself, your daughter or a friend!

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Chime In:

Are you single?  I rarely hear from my single readers – but I just heard from one today via email and was so blessed to hear her heart!  I’m glad you are here. And just a side note, I read marriage and parenting books  back when I was a teen – long before I was a wife or mother. ;)

Are you married – these questions go with the video above:
What is one thing you love about marriage?
What has been your favorite date experience with your husband?
What is one piece of advice you would share with other wives?

Walk with the King,

Courtney

Comments

  1. Thanks Courtney!

  2. This is awesome! I am happily married for 17 years … here are my answers:
    What is one thing you love about marriage? Having my best friend by my side every single day.
    What has been your favorite date experience with your husband? At this point in our marriage our kids are getting older and staying up later and it’s hard to find alone intimate time – so my faves have been when we get to have an overnight date – either at home with kids gone to Grandma’s or even at a hotel for a change of scenery.
    What is one piece of advice you would share with other wives? COMMUNICATION is key! Most misunderstandings begin because of lack of communication or people just simply misunderstanding the other person’s motives/thoughts/intentions.

    Blessings, Kathy K

  3. Courtney- I am a 19 year old single girl. I have been reading your blog for several years now and it has been one of the greatest blessings in my life. I have learned so much and am so thankful to the Lord for you and all your posts and videos. I also read your book and it was one of my favorites- I’m going to read it again and this time, I’m going to mark things and highlight. I have printed out many of your posts and hope to use them all one day when I am married, Lord willing. I can also highly recommend Paula Hendricks’ new book- I read it back in October and I was so encouraged by it- so whoever wins them will be so blessed :) Anyways, I just wanted to say that your blog has been such a great blessing, encouragement, and learning center for me. God has certainly used you in my life!

    May God richly bless you and your family!
    ~Libby

    • Libby –

      It is wonderful to hear from you!!! Thank you for taking the time to say “hi” and introduce yourself and share your story!

      Thanks for the encouragement tonight!
      Lots of Love,
      Courtney :)

  4. What I love about marriage is having someone who I can be me with and who gets me. I am a naturally shy person but my husband draws me out of my shell. He makes me brave. I know if I fall he will be there to pick me back up again. Favorite date is a tough one. Most of our dates are just us hanging out together and I love that. Once a year or once every couple of years he comes up with some grand gesture. He painted a huge heart in the snow and flew me over it (he is a pilot :) As far as marriage advice I would just say to pray for him and let him lead. My husband dreams big and often I want to be the reality police and pop his bubble. Nothing discourages him more and I feel horrible afterward. I’ve discovered that if I have doubts about it- to pray first before disagreeing. Many times he has been right and when he is wrong God leads us away from that path.

  5. wanjiru S says:

    Thanks for that amazing Video.. i have never experienced love in that monner but i know for sure prayer can change things where we cant , i will share with my married friends keep up the good work
    blessings

  6. Al age 28 says:

    I’m single, and love God. The book giveaway is nice. I read your posts because they come to my email after I signed up did a summer study of proverbs 31 women with a group of girls. All your advice, even in the study is all about the family unit and women as wives and mothers. That’s not me and I don’t relate. Although I don’t personally have any take always from your stuff, reading about your life, helps me to understand my sister and others who are career wives and moms. I live in a harsh corporate world still primarily dominated by men in my area where I have little control over the environment, the schedule, or attitudes. I don’t get the right to send someone to timeout when they yell or say something insulting. My life is outside of your experience and intended audience. It can feel demeaning sometimes with all these stay at home wives living out this high calling as if having a actual job in the world is just something that the less fortunate have to do. I’ve come to my own conclusions that women without jobs have more time to blog and fill the web with their ideas, and it gives them a way to connect to adults. At the end of my day, I’m tired from adult conversations and interactions so I’m assuming, based on some of my coworkers stories about their wives with new babies aching just to get out of the house and interact with others and my stay at home family members who seem hungry for normal conversations too. I don’t know if this is encouraging, but you mentioned not hearing from single bloggers, so I figured I’d explain. I don’t think people on a path similar to mine are any less of women or are in any less loved, blessed, or called by God to glorify him. It just looks different. Sometimes I’d say it has its benefits; God is my best friend, and He’s put plenty of people in my life to love and serve.

  7. One thing I love about marriage is having a partner. Someone who shares all of life’s experiences with me and challenges and encourages my Christian walk as well as supporting me in ministry.

    My favorite date experience is probably from our anniversary last year. We spent the day just riding around and talking. We played arcade games, which we both love, and just enjoyed the day with no time restrictions or interruptions.

    The one piece of advice I would share is to talk to your husband. Communication is key in any relationship and especially in our marriages. Be honest about how you feel don’t wait for him to notice you silently sulking because he probably won’t until you have gotten either very angry or very hurt. Don’t nag, or whine, or shout, just talk to your husband and the other key part of communication- LISTEN to him as well!

  8. Thank you so much for this video – in the first few minutes I was grabbed in by what Shelia (THANK YOU!) said “Married for 25 years and happily married for 16 years because it took us a couple of years to get it right.” That gives me so much hope – we have been married for 7 years (with dating we’ve been together for 15) but the last few years have been really tough. And (THANK YOU!) Fawn for saying to reject the well-intentioned advice – I’m trying to navigate through all of it and do the right thing..sometimes though I’m not sure what the right thing is! (Again, thank you Shelia for the “Stop thinking” advice too.) I am so grateful – thank you Jennifer for doing this video and Paula for sharing it. This is definitely inspiring and encouraging at a time when I need it.

  9. Great video! My answers are:
    1. I love having someone to spend life with. I have someone to help raise my children and just something to have so I am not alone. We experience adventures together, he’s always there for me to talk to. I don’t have to be lonely.

    2. My favorite date experience is a toss up. 1, being a SAHM, I rarely have the opportunity to get dressed up for anything. Sweats is typcially my thing! :) So, I love when I can get dressed up and we go out to eat at a nice restaurant we haven’t been to yet. 2, every Friday night we have movie night. It’s the only night of the week we can just curl up on the couch with a bowl of popcorn and watch a movie together. We watch tv shows and such together, but when it’s a movie it just is that more special. I love this so much that when we can’t do it on a Friday night for whatever reason, I am actually very sad!

    3. My piece of advice would be just to not give up. People give up so easily today when things aren’t going the way they think they should be going. Read what God has to say about what marriage is, and what your role in marriage is, and if you cling to that and obey it, things will be much better. At least, it was for me! Things are going to be hard, but you are a stronger person for sticking through it.

  10. Melinda Elam says:

    I have been married for 15 years now and my husband and I have one daughter who is 12. We got married super young. I had only been out of high school for 6 weeks! My husband was only 20. I can say though that I would not change anything and that essentially we were ready. There have definitely been some serious challenges in our marriage, but we are still going strong and it has only gotten better with time!

    One thing I love about marriage is that it can be such a beautiful picture of what God can do! It is a very unique relationship, one that gets deeper and more real than any other. That love, union, and protection speaks of our God so loudly!

    It is always hard for me to pick a favorite anything, I like so many things and I don’t want to have to choose. But I will try ;) Like Fawn, I love an at home snuggle date for sure. We have started going to the gun range together. My husband had bought me a gun years ago on Valentine’s Day, because he really wanted me to have one, I guess. So after a failed attempt to get scuba certified, I prayed that God would give me something else I could do with my hubby. And I remembered the gun and got my CHL and now we can go and shoot together. I love spending time with him!

    The one piece of marriage advice I would give(again, how can you give just one. Hope I pick the right one, lol) would be to let God use this marriage relationship to grow you. Marriage tends to bring out the ugly in people. Your spouse is going to know you and all your glory more than anyone else. All those areas of your life that no one else sees or knows about, they do. I think God mercifully brings someone into your life that brings those things out. They need to be brought to the surface so you can deal with them. My husband and I got to a place where when one of us had something that needed to be dealt with spiritually speaking our hearts were for that person to be reconciled to the Lord. Not showing them how wrong they were or how much they had hurt the other.

  11. I’m single – and just turned 45 in December. I’ve never been married. I go through periods of wanting to date online, and then I just get burned out by the process and I take long “breaks” in between bursts of dating activity. I read quite a few dating/relationship books. I have to say that there are no quality Christian dating books for singles over age 30. There are quality books out there by authors from other backgrounds. I find that Jewish singles tend to marry older, so their advice is more relevant to older singles. Amy Webb’s book “Data, A Love Story” is the top book I would recommend, but also Dr. Diana Kirschner’s “Love in 90 Days.” My advice to other singles is if you’re serious about getting married, read the right books, don’t take advice from people who have been married for more than 5 years (because the dating landscape has changed so much just in the last few years, that they don’t understand what’s really going on out there), and if you have the money, invest in a good dating coach to challenge you, and to keep you focused and on track to reach your goal (whatever your dating goal is – whether it’s marriage, or just to meet a lot of new people).

    1. My parents have been married for 46 years, so I would say the thing I like best about marriage is how it teaches you a lot about partnership and teamwork.
    2. My favorite date experience – just the basic dinner/movie scenarios is fine with me. I’m low maintenance!
    3. One piece of advice to share with wives: don’t assume your dating experiences are still relevant to singles today. It’s very likely their experiences are completely different from yours. The dating scene has changes so much just over the last 5 years. Try not to give singles advice based on your own experiences. Refer them to Amy Webb’s book and TED talk on Youtube, if only for laughs.

  12. Let’s see… I’ve been married for 12.5 years and together we have 3 amazing children. I won’t say that it has all been happy, but it’s been us together doing life.

    What is one thing you love about marriage? The balance he brings to my life. In a lot of ways we are polar opposites! I’m nervous and panicky (if that’s a word) and he’s calm and collected.

    What has been your favorite date experience with your husband? We are foodies at heart, so when we have the opportunity to try new restaurants together I find that very enjoyable.

    What is one piece of advice you would share with other wives? As many others have said, disgregard the vast amount of advice you are given and go straight to the source – God’s Word! His Word will not fail or disappoint you and it’s ALWAYS the truth – how can we get any better than that?

  13. Sheila’s last answer cracked me up! So true! :)

    1.) Married 18 years and like each blogger I love going through life with someone. There are ups and downs of course, but it’s all the more apparent that I enjoy his presence when he’s out-of-town. The knowledge that our earthly marriages will vanish is a tough one for me…but I know the best is yet to come eternally.

    2.) Best dates are alone in the car…. we can talk and talk and talk. It’s perfect. He’s trapped. ;) Actually, he’s more of a talker than I am. But the most meaningful talk is then.

    3.) My best advice is the advice given to me just before getting married by a mom who had been married about 15 yrs. She said, “there will be times when you wake up and think ~ who is this person I married and why did I? ~ but it will pass. It may even last months. But it will pass. Don’t get out. Stay put.” We are both still married. I’m not sure that months have gone by for me that I felt that way, but I certainly felt that way many times in the first half of our marriage. It WILL pass. Stick it out and ask God to change yourself. That’s how marriages last.

  14. Great Video Girls!

    1. My husband and I are each others best friends!

    2. A romantic weekend vacation in a posh hotel!

    3. To put God first, then your husband!! Communicate with each other, have fun times together and as a family weekly. Humility to accept fault, to apologize and to forgive!

  15. 1.) The one thing I love about marriage is being married to my best friend. The only man in the whole world who truly understands and gets me! The only man in the entire world who I can talk with and pray with about anything!! God hand picked this man especially for me! I can’t imagine spending my life with anyone else. He truly is the only one for me! Never in a million years did I ever think I would experience this kind of love and relationship!
    2.) I love all the dates I go on with my husband however our first date will always remain my favorite and most special! He took me out to a really nice dinner, treated me like a lady and we talked for the longest time! I had never had such a long and deep conversation with a man before, not even my dad. I met my husband at church and we saw each other and would say hello but never really talked until he asked me out 2 years after we met. I always knew we were meant to be with each other but he didn’t know until our first date…20 years ago.
    3.) OPEN, HONEST, HEART FELT COMMUNICATION and NEVER NEVER NEVER KEEP TRACK…NEVER NEVER BRING UP THE PAST IF YOU’RE ARGUING OR HAVING A HEATED DISCUSSION! REMEMBER FROM WHAT WE’VE LEARNED, WE ARE MARRIED TO A SINNER AND OUR HUSBAND IS ALSO MARRIED TO A SINNER. LOVE HIM DEEPLY WITH YOUR WHOLE HEART AND LEARN HIS LOVE LANGUAGE! ALSO, ALLOW GOD TO ENCOMPASS EVERYTHING IN YOUR MARRIAGE!

  16. Sis Ruth’s answer to the best date night????? She said it might be “sorta silly” but THAT IS SOOOOOO PRECIOUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! <3<3<3<3 top 10 reasons why Ruth is my Valentine!? I would've melted into a puddle.
    Also, some gr8 advice I gained from this video was that men tend to communicate side to side and while they're busy while (of COURSE! LOL) we as women are the exact opposite! Also, to STOP THINKING and OVERGENERALIZING and

  17. I’m a single follower. Well, single as in, divorced… twice… before the age of 30. Boycrazy has been a term used more than a huge handful of times to describe me. Entered the giveaway. Really thinking it’s a book I NEED to read! *winces*

  18. Hi Courtney,
    I discovered some of your videos on YouTube, and I really love your encouraging advice!
    I am curious to know what your stance is on modesty? I noticed that you wear jeans, while some Christian women believe that long skirts or dresses are more appropriate.

  19. Cecilia Sacksen says:

    I love your writing! Thank you for inspiring me to be a better woman for God and for my husband.

    What is one thing you love about marriage?
    Having someone to share my life with.
    What has been your favorite date experience with your husband?
    Ice skating on a Friday night at our local indoor rink. We were the oldest people there amongst all the teenagers and loved the throwback feeling of holding hands and skating to cheesy music!
    What is one piece of advice you would share with other wives?
    Respect your husband and always make him feel like the man of your home.

I love hearing what is on your heart.

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