The Proverbs 31 Woman – Week 7 – Shopping for Clothes!

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Alright ladies – this week the Proverbs 31 woman is getting dressed and dressing her family!

We are up to Proverbs 31:21 & 22:

 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.

I have been battling laryngitis for 7 days – so I drank lots of hot tea and honey before this video and eeked it out!  I apologize for being so croaky :(

 (If you are reading this post in an email – click here to view the video.)

In the video, I mentioned how I like to “Clothes Swap” with my friends!  Here’s a few pics from our last clothes swap and you can find the rest of the details on this blog post here.

Each girl chose a section of the room to display their clothes.
Clare from Peak 313 Fitness scored my Easter 2009 dress! It fits! Hooray!
Look what I found! Gorgeous! (although once I tried it on it didn’t fit and went to my sister)
Becky has on a new t-shirt, necklace and shoes (plus an arm full!)
My $6 outfit!
Here’s what I wore to church the Sunday after the swap - my brand new blue shirt and new necklace – free from the swap! And a $6 skirt from a resale shop!   (minus the boots – which are Payless!)
I also love to shop at resale shops and here’s a video I made a while back titled “How to Shop for Feminine Clothes on a Budget.”

 (click here if you can’t see the video)
This Week’s Challenge:  Plan and prepare now for Fall.  We all know the kids are going to need back to school clothes – watch the clearance racks for winter clothes on clearance and stock up now.  Don’t forget it’s garage sale season – I love a good garage sale and have clothes in my closet and in the kid’s closets from garage sales too!!  Be sure to share your children’s clothes that you are done with.  My kids have hand me downs from their cousins – we love hand me downs!  And all my clothes get binned up and passed on to two other Christian families who have kids just one size below mine.  Share :) and Happy Shopping!
Do you have any special tips for how you clothe your family? Share them in the comments!

Walk with the King,


*To find the videos from weeks 1-6 click here and page back and down.
**To find the Proverbs 31 Bible reading plan – click here and begin Week 7 today.
***If you would like to receive the Proverbs 31 eBook that goes along with this series – subscribe to Women Living Well. At the bottom or every email you receive from WLW will be the link to the ebook. If there’s been a gliche in the system and you have not received your free ebook – please DO NOT leave a comment below but rather email me at Courtney(at) and I will email you the direct link within 24 hours. :) Thanks!

The Proverbs 31 Woman – Week 6

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Woohoo…we are up to week 6 in our Proverbs 31 series!!!

This week we are looking at verses 19 & 20

“In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.”

 I can’t get over the mundane work the Proverbs 31 woman does.  In  her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle to spin her own thread to use to sew her family’s clothing!  And I think ironing is hard work! lol!  Oh my, is this a mundane task!

I feel quite sure that she did not enjoy every second of this – in the same way that I don’t enjoy every second of scrubbing a toilet BUT she has a willing heart.  She is willing to do it because hidden within the mundane is a treasure – the treasure of making her home a haven for her own family and for those in need.

I love the analogy Angela uses in the video below of the Good Samaritan:


(If you are seeing this in a feed or email- click here to see the video  Also, if you are new here – Angela is leading the Proverbs 31 study over at all summer long!  I encourage you to check out all the guest posts and practical wisdom found there!)

  Now here is Angela’s challenge for us——>   

Weekly Challenge: Pray and ask God to help you see the needs of others around you. Then bless someone this week by seeing the need and meeting it. Share in the comment section how God worked through you to meet this need.

Ideas include:

Helping someone while you are out and about during your day…..picking up something that they dropped, carrying out the groceries etc.

Babysitting for the single mom down the road

Going through your closet and giving some of your cloths away to those who need them

Surprise the family down the street who are having financial problems with a gift card or a check to help pay for one of their bills.

Sponsor a child through Compassion or World Vision

Help out in a soup kitchen

Help with VBS


Over Memorial Day, my husband rebuilt our mailbox and the neighbor’s mailbox.

Keith put each of us to work with a task.  Alexis and I did all the painting.  Then the boys did the hammering while we passed them the nails.  Before long – voila!  2 new mailboxes.

A day later, the doorbell rang and it was our next door neighbor.  She’s an older woman who was recently widowed.  With her eyes full of tears and a smile as wide as the sky, she grabbed me and hugged me and said:

 “Thank you SO much!  With my husband gone and my children living far away in other states, I didn’t know how I was ever going to fix my mailbox.  That is something my husband would have handled and I’ve been worried about it.” 

She tried to offer us money, which we refused, and she hugged me two more times before leaving.  Oh I could feel the relief and joy she felt from this simple thing my husband had done and it made me wonder – what else is she worrying about that I could be of use for.

Is my neighbor poor?  Financially no – but she had a need that we were able to meet.   We sponsor children through World Help and Compassion, but I must say that we don’t have to look across the ocean to find someone in need – in our case – I only need to look across my lawn to the widow next door! 

The beauty that radiates from the Proverbs 31 woman is a beauty that comes from the lives she has touched.

So I wonder – Have you ever been in need and someone extended a hand to you? Please share your stories in the comments – I think it will remind us that God uses us – his children – to be an extension of his loving hands.

Walk with the King,



*To find the videos from weeks 1-5 click here and page back and down.
**To find the Proverbs 31 Bible reading plan – click here and begin Week 6 today.
***If you would like to receive the Proverbs 31 eBook that goes along with this series – subscribe to Women Living Well.  At the bottom or every email you receive from WLW will be the link to the ebook.  If there’s been a gliche in the system and you have not received your free ebook – please DO NOT leave a comment below but rather email me at Courtney(at) and I will email you the direct link within 24 hours. :) Thanks!

The Proverbs 31 Woman~Week 5

 We are up to week 5 of the Proverbs 31 Woman Series.  If you missed the first 4 videos you can find them by clicking here and then scrolling down and back to find the week you missed.

This week we are looking at verses 17 & 18

17 She sets about her work vigorously;
Her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.


(If you are seeing this in a feed or email - click here to see the video)

I was going write and add a little to what I shared in the video – then I got so chatty in the video (it was longer than I meant it to be. lol!  I guess this series really lights my fire!) that I think I covered it all!

**just one addition that came from the comment section - I agree – her lamp not going out at night – could mean that she was prepared with enough oil to keep a “night light” on all night in case someone woke and needed her help.  Also, in the morning she would already have a fire lit to start her other fires for cooking.

This week’s challenge is to JOIN ME – in memorizing the entire Proverbs 31 passage.

I made a printable so we can print a few copies and keep them around.  I encourage you to keep the verses on your kitchen counter, in your purse, folded in your Bible (read it first thing before you have your quiet time), on your nightstand or in your bathroom.  If you read it a few times a day – you’ll be surprised how quickly you pick it up!

Proverbs 31 Printable (if the printable doesn’t work – click this link to open it in a new window)

Walk with the King,

The Proverbs 31 Woman – Week 4


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Welcome back to week 4 in our Proverbs 31 series!

This week we are reading:

Proverbs 31:15-16
She gets up while it is still dark;
She provides food for her family
And portions for her servant girls.
She considers a filed and buys it;
Out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.

 Please welcome back Angela from - I just love hearing her videos!


(If you cannot see this video click here.)

The Proverbs 31 woman knows the value of time. She doesn’t waste time in bed – she is not slothful. She rises so early that it is still dark out and in that darkness she provides food for her family. Rather than pulling something out of the freezer last minute – she starts the morning with her family’s need for food on her mind. To see two great examples of monthly meal plans that you could replicate go here or here.

Then she provides portions for her servant girls. As Angela said in the video – our servant girls are our washing machines, dryers, dishwashers, microwaves, telephones, computers, cars (thank goodness I don’t have to hitch a wagon in the morning) and vacuums! These little servants are huge time savers – but they do have to be managed. At times they break (both my washing machine and vacuum broke within the last 6 weeks – I learned how valuable both are to my daily life during that time!).

Next the Proverbs 31 woman has a dream – she dreams of planting a vineyard – so she considers, buys and plants a vineyard. 

Do you have a dream?  Follow the Proverbs 31 method of pursuing it.

1. Consider – take time to pray and think through your plan.  Consider if this is best for your family in this season of life.  Talk to your husband and let him lead you in the decision making process.

2.  Buy – in order to buy you must first save.  Patiently save the money you will need to make this project happen.

3.  Plant – the Proverbs 31 woman put muscle to her dream.  She worked diligently to plant her vineyard.  In the same way we are going to have to diligently work day in and day out to see fruit from our labor.

I followed these steps when starting this blog. :)

 Our challenge this week Comes from Angela:

Rise before your family!!! Come on girls I know YOU can do it!!! I know it’s hard! It’s hard for me too, but lets focus this week and RISE before our family does…..before our kids do! Let’s rise, have our quiet time and organize our day BEFORE it starts!!! Pray this week for strength and the discipline to rise early! Also pray about your finances and ask God for wisdom to help you make wise choices concerning how you spend the money He has given you.

What are some ways you can make your days easier by getting up before your family?

 Walk with the King,

*Over at you will find them discussing this section of the Proverbs 31 woman all week long – so I encourage you to visit them!! :)


The Proverbs 31 Woman ~ Week 3

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Welcome back to week 3 in our Proverbs 31 series.

Today we are up to verses 12,13, & 14 – they say:

12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.



(If you cannot see this video click here.)

We see in verse 12, the Proverbs 31 woman stays true to her marriage vows.  She is with her husband all the days of her life.

We see in verse 13, her attitude towards work.  She works with eager hands

And we see in verse 14, that the very basic necessity of feeding her family is a task that she does with great attention and care.  She is like a merchant ship – who travels off to distant places and brings in unique cargo that you can’t just get at the corner store.


Recently my husband replaced our 15 year old washing machine because it had broken. So he asked me how it was working for me just this past Wednesday…it just so happened that while I was doing laundry that day, I paused, prayed and thanked God for my washing machine. I am so sincerely thankful for my washer and my 15 year old dryer. I was able to tell my husband, “I am overflowing with joy for it – I thanked God for it today!” and I thanked him for buying it for me.

In the same way, often times after grocery shopping – I pop my trunk and just pause and say a prayer of thankfulness for the trunk full of food.  I have had my kids, right in the grocery store, say a sentence prayer while waiting in line – thanking God for our cart of groceries.

When we come to a massive mound of dirty laundry that we are about to tackle, I believe that pausing and thanking God that our family has all these clothes can change our perspective and help us come to our tasks with eager hands.


Our challenge this week: 

Look at the menial tasks of doing laundry, grocery shopping and cooking as a noble task that God has called us to.  Come to these tasks with an eager attitude.  If this is a struggle for you – pray and ask God to help you.  Get on your knees and thank God that he has provided for our basic needs of clothing and food and never stop giving thanks!  Bring your kids along side of you and let them offer up a prayer of thanksgiving too.


Walk with the King,


**If you are new to Women Living Well, I invite you to join our series by subscribing to receive the free Proverbs 31 eBook, you can also follow our optional summer Proverbs 31 Bible reading plan here, and visit on Wednesday and Friday for more on verses 12-14!

The Proverbs 31 Woman ~ Week 2

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Welcome back to week 2 of our 14 week series in Proverbs 31! 

If you are wondering what chapters we will be covering this summer - print out the reading plan by clicking here.  It gives you a week by week schedule of reading in the Proverbs 31 ebook  (available free here) AND an extra Bible reading plan for your daily quiet times!

Now let me introduce you to my High School BFF – in case you haven’t met her already…

This is Angela – a wife to her high school sweet heart, a mommy of 3 little girls, and the lead chick over at where they are posting about the Proverbs 31 woman 3 days a week (Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays).  She and I are taking turns making videos for this series – so it’s her turn this week!

Last week – we looked at Proverbs 31:1-9. (click here to view my intro video

This week we are looking at Proverbs 31:10,11.

10 A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.

Here’s Angela’s thoughts – you will see why I LOVE this girl – she is SUCH an encourager!!!


(If you cannot see the video above – click here.)

Week 2 Challenge: This week focus on being a woman of noble character…a woman that your husband can take full confidence in! Remember: You and God are an amazing team together! Keep your eyes on Jesus, pray and ask Him to help you be the woman He created YOU to be! Ask Him for help……we can never become who He has created us to be without it! Pray and then ACT……..act upon what He shows you!:)

Thank you Angela for that challenge and I would encourage you to evaluate yourself…are there any areas where your husband may not fully trust you? 

Does your husband trust your spending, your training of the children, your ability to run the home, your words that you speak about him when he is not in the room, your faithfulness to him in regards to flirting with other men, your emotions and temper, and the choices you make? 

Trust is the first virtue on the list of virtues of the Proverbs 31 woman

Evaluate yourself, confess any areas where you have fallen short, commit your weaknesses to prayer this week and make a change! 

Walk with the King,


Ps. Don’t forget to visit this week for more on this topic!

The 1950′s Wife vs.The Proverbs 31 Wife

Pictured Above – my grandmother with 2 of her 3 boys and my mother :)
On the Rachael Ray Show I was dubbed a “1950′s Wife“. But my grandmother, a mother of 4, is the REAL 1950′s wife.  She is ALSO a Proverbs 31 woman
Were all 1950′s wives Proverbs 31 wives? 
No…the two terms are not equal.  I know that nostalgia makes us believe the old days were better but what distinguishes a 50′s wife from a Proverbs 31 one?  Her fear of God.   
Grandma’s life was full and busy as she lovingly cared for her family. She served God by serving her family. She worked with eager hands (Prov. 31:13b), she set about her work vigorously (Prov. 31:17), she watched over the affairs of her household and did not eat the bread of idleness (Prov. 31:27). And the most beautiful part was she feared the Lord (Prov. 31:30).
My grandma had a weekly schedule which I jotted down in a journal – my mother rattled it off as quickly as my grandmother!! So this must be where I get my scheduling tendencies - it’s in my genes lol!!! One strong similiarity of the 50′s wife and the Proverbs 31 wife are their household duties.
Here’s what a woman’s work looked like in the 50′s:

Mondays – Wash Clothes (by hand in sudsy water, ring it, rinse it, ring it, hang it outside to dry. This took all day.)

Tuesdays – Iron ( Iron everything – shirts, pants, and underwear. There was no permanent press – everything was very wrinkly. This took all day.)

Wednesdays – Mend and work on new sewing projects (She sewed patches onto pants and mended socks. My grandmother sewed all of my mother’s clothes until she reached the middle of high school.)

Thursdays – Cleaning of bedrooms and bathrooms (They only had one car which was normal in those days. Grandpa did the grocery shopping and grandma worked the garden.)

Fridays – Cleaning of living room, dining room and kitchen (Grandma baked every day. She made cinnamon rolls, pies, donuts and cakes from scratch.)

Saturdays – Prepare for Sunday by cooking double meals and giving baths etc. (Grandma always made hamburgers for dinner on Saturdays because they were fast. Then she focused on the Sunday Roast and sheet cake that they would eat after church.)

Sundays – Day of Rest

Do I want to be a 1950′s wife? Not really, I certainly do love my modern day conveniences! But if there’s a 1950′s wife I’d like to emulate, it’s not June Cleaver - but a REAL 1950′s wife –  my grandmother. Her God and her family were of prime importance and her daily priorities show this to be true.

As Proverbs 31:31 says “Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.”

My grandmother’s works are worthy of my praise. I pray that our generation would be remarkable in our care for our families and homes and that we too would be worthy of praise

Do you have a role model who is a Proverbs 31 woman?  Tell us about her in the comments section!

Walk with the King!

The Proverbs 31 Woman Series Begins!


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Welcome to Week 1 in Proverbs 31!!! I’m so delighted that you are here.

I know that a lot of women have mixed emotions about the Proverbs 31 woman – I mention in the video below how some women are intimidated and even irritated at this passage in the Bible.

I want to challenge women everywhere to read it, accept it, tremble in awe of the mighty God we serve who has called us to such a high task and pray.

(if you cannot see the video click here - and if you are wondering what passage I am referring to in the video – with a list for noble men – go to I Timothy 3:1-13.)

Materials needed for this series:
Proverbs31 Reading Plan
Proverbs 31 Study Guide
(FREE ebook) The Proverbs 31 Woman: One Virtue at a Time by Courtney Joseph (must subscribe to the Women Living Well blog)

Now flip open your Bible and read Proverbs chapter 31 for a brief overview of this passage.

So who’s in?  What are some of your thoughts about the Proverbs 31 Woman?  Do you find her intimidating or inspiring and why?

Walk with the King,