New Series Announcement: Thriving In a Spiritually Mismatched Marriage

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Next week we begin a week long series titled: Thriving in a Spiritually Mismatched Marriage.

I can not wait for you to meet my friend Lynn!  I had the privilege of reading in advance and endorsing her most recent book she co-authored titled, Not Alone: Trusting God to Help You Raise Godly Kids in a Spiritually Mismatched Home.  I LOVED this book and the minute I closed it I knew we needed her voice here at Women Living Well.  I get emails on a regular basis from women in this very situation.  I pray that her words will be a comfort and inspiration to us all.  I have already learned so much off of her as a Titus 2 woman and I look forward to learning more.

So let me introduce you – this is Lynn!

 Lynn Donovan

Lynn Donovan is a speaker, author, and an ordinary woman who shares with audiences her everyday adventures of walking in the Presence of God. Her delight is igniting women’s hearts with Holy Spirit fire, inspiring wives and mothers to step fully into their high and holy calling of marriage and motherhood with joy, laughter and God’s favor. She has been featured guest on the 700 Club Interactive, Focus on the Family, Dr. James Dobson’s FamilyTalk and FamilyLife Today. She coauthored the award winning book, Winning Him Without Words and also Not Alone, Trusting God to Help You Raise Godly Kids In a Spiritually Mismatched Marriage. She has a son and a daughter and a granddaughter. She lives with her husband in Temecula, California. Visit Lynn online at MismatchedAndThriving.com

I am currently on vacation and I have brought her book, Not Alone along for a second read…

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Yes, I’m somewhere with palm trees for much needed time away with my family and rest (I heard it’s single digits and snowing at home – so I’m feeling double blessed and I’ll try to not complain about the sunburns and rashes we are experiencing Lol!…today we had to spend the day in the room recouping from sun poisoning – ugh!).  I’ll share more pictures with you later but until then – my heart and prayers are with you all.

Walk with the King,

Courtney

Valentine’s Video & Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl Giveaway!

Valentine's Day Special 5 Marriage Bloggers

I’m interrupting our regular schedule for the Book Club – for this Special Valentine’s Day Video and Giveaway!

This video was done by 5 of the ‘Top Christian Marriage Bloggers’ including:
Sheila from ToLoveHonorandVacuum.com,
Fawn from HappyWivesClub.com,
Ruth from TheBetterMom.com, and
Jennifer from UnveiledWife.com

So sit back and relax and enjoy this 10 minute video:

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We all pin to a Pinterest Board together at “Inspiring Christian Wives” if you’d like to follow us there!

Next up – Singles (or mother’s and friends of singles) this giveaway is for you!!!!

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Paul Hendricks writes:

Remember what it was like?

As Valentine’s Day approached you wondered if a secret admirer would finally emerge from hiding. But other than a lonely carnation and chocolates from your mom (no offense mom!), you came up empty . . . again.

This Valentine’s Day, do you know a girl who aches to be in a relationship?

If so, I have just the gift for her. Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl shares my personal journey from neediness to freedom.

Thanks for sharing this gift with the girls in your life,

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Paula

Paula blogs for teen girls and women by day (onLiesYoungWomenBelieve.com and TrueWoman.com) and journals her adventures by night. Her first book, Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl: On Her Journey from Neediness to Freedom, released September 2013.

She has worked at Revive Our Hearts for nearly nine years, where she currently serve as Writing and Editorial Manager. Here are a few more God-stories of how I got where I am today.
I finished reading Paula’s book tonight and it was such a sweet, transparent, Christ-centered book.  Paula writes openly about her 28 years of ups and downs with guys and relationships.  Her heartaches pulled at my heart-strings and reminded me of those hard days of dating, waiting, and dreaming.  Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl is not a band-aid for your soul but a true healing balm as she points to true satisfaction found only in walking with the King.

 Paula is giving away FIVE Signed Copies to WLW readers {hooray!}!  Enter to win a copy for yourself, your daughter or a friend!

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Chime In:

Are you single?  I rarely hear from my single readers – but I just heard from one today via email and was so blessed to hear her heart!  I’m glad you are here. And just a side note, I read marriage and parenting books  back when I was a teen – long before I was a wife or mother. ;)

Are you married – these questions go with the video above:
What is one thing you love about marriage?
What has been your favorite date experience with your husband?
What is one piece of advice you would share with other wives?

Walk with the King,

Courtney

The Women Living Well Book Club – Chapters 9 & 10 {Marriage Challenge}

Chapters 9 & 10 Completing Him Marriage Challenges

 

Let’s Discuss Chapters 9 & 10

We are up to the “Completing Him” Marriage Challenges.  I’ve had many comments over the years where wives were annoyed that I only direct my posts to them.  They want me to set the husbands straight and tell them to change.   They also feel that my advice to women – like doing these challenges – make us weak.

Here’s my 2 minute video response to these thoughts:

What makes one husband feel loved and respected may not make another husband feel this way.  Each of our husband’s are unique and so all of their likes, dislikes, preferences and responses to these challenges will vary widely.  But I can testify,  100% of the feedback from women who have done the challenges, has been positive!  Hooray!

You were not created to compete with your husband

Are you familiar with Gary Chapman’s book, The 5 Love Languages?  The concept is that all people have 1 or 2 ways that they prefer to receive love from their spouse.  Do you know what your love language is and do you know what your husband’s is?  Find out today by going to Gary’s website and taking his free test.  It’s really fun to know this and you will find as you do these challenges that you touch on each love language.

So Valentine’s Day is RIGHT around the corner and this is our chance to pour some love onto our guys!  Here’s a few ideas to get you started:

 

1. Text him with a sweet message that includes something you appreciate about him (or maybe a picture collage like my one above) I learned this from Pinterest :) !

2. Email him today telling him how grateful you are for him.

3. If he’s on Facebook – go to his wall or post a status update praising him

4.  Offer to say the prayer before dinner and then in your prayer thank God for him and give specifics.

5. As you give him a kiss hello, goodbye or goodnight – insert a little word of thanks and praise.

 

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Discussion Questions:

1.)  Do you plan to do one of the Marriage Challenges? Share which one you plan to do.

2.)  Have you done any of the challenges? Which one and how did your husband respond?

For Extra Discussion go to the Forum and click on the thread that says “Chapters 9 & 10″

Walk with the King,

Courtney

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The Women Living Well Book Club – Chapter 8 {Banishing Bitterness}

Book Club chapter 8

Let’s Discuss Chapter 8

Today I want to share some thoughts with you from Elisabeth Elliot’s book titled “Let Me Be a Woman”.

Elisabeth writes:

Who is it you marry?  You marry a sinner. There’s nobody else to marry.  That ought to be obvious enough but when you love a man as you love yours it’s easy to forget.  You forget it for a while and then when something happens that ought to remind you, you find yourself wondering what’s the matter, how could this happen, where did things go wrong?

They went wrong back in the Garden of Eden.  Settle it once for all, your husband is a son of Adam.  Acceptance of him – of all of him- includes acceptance of his being a sinner…

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You will less likely turn into a nagging wife if you recall continually that it is not only your husband who leaves undone those things which (you think) he ought to do, and does things which (you think) he ought not to do, but that you, too, have erred and strayed like a lost sheep, sinning daily by omission and commission.

The consciousness that we are alike in our need of redemption is a liberating one.  For there will be times when you find yourself accusing, criticizing, and resenting.  You begin, almost without realizing that you are doing it, to make a mental list of offenses, anticipating the day when some straw will break the came’s back and you can recite the whole list, sure to add at the end “and another thing…!”

But you will find yourself disarmed utterly, and your accusing spirit transformed into loving forgiveness the moment you remember that you did, in fact, marry only a sinner, and so did he.  It’s grace you both need.”

Ah yes, grace.  Grace changes everything. Grace helps us banish bitterness in marriage.

who we are at home is who we really are (1) (2)

 

Let’s Discuss:

Often times it is the single women who are told that they need to find contentment in their singleness…but I think married women need the same exhortation.

We must find contentment in our marriages.  That’s what this 3 minute video is all about:

(If you can’t see the video – click here to view it)

Discussion Questions:

1.) When conflicts arise in marriage – and they always do – how do you tend to handle them?  Are you cranky or critical?  Do you suddenly become a history expert and bring up old wounds and mistakes – his not yours?  Or do you become withdrawn and sulk, refusing to deal with the matter?

2.)  Read Hebrews 12:15. What does it mean for something to take root and spring up in the world of plants (and weeds!)?  Why is it dangerous for bitterness to do the same in our heart?

For extra discussion go to the forum and click on the thread that says Chapter 8.

Walk with the King,

Courtney