As I share my favorite authors and quotes with you (as part of my new series titled Top 10 Quotes on Marriage and Motherhood ) they will be in random order. But if I had to be honest, I do have a few that I favor over the others and so I am starting out with one of my all-time favorite authors –Elizabeth George!!!
I remember when I was first married, some of my college friends were in town. Like me, these girls were hungry to learn how to be Godly wives and so we began reading Elizabeth George’s book A Woman After God’s Own Heart. But we ran out of time and had to leave for the airport. During our 45 minute drive to the airport – we passed the book around and each one of us took a turn reading the book out loud to each other (while my husband drove lol!). That’s how hungry we were to learn and grow. If you are in the same boat – I highly recommend you pull your girlfriends together and grab one of her books – they are perfect for a group study!
I own many books by her and have led about 5 small group studies using her workbook, DVDs, study guides and devotionals. (A few of her books are not shown because I own them on Kindle)
This week’s quotes and excerpts are taken from Chapter 7 of Elizabeth George’s book titled Life Management for Busy Women: Living Out God’s Plan with Passion and Purpose.
Elizabeth George writes:
God’s Four Words for Wives
1. Help your husband -(Genesis 2:18).
2. Follow your husband’s leadership – (Ephesians 5:22).
3. Respect your husband -(Ephesians 5:33).
4. Love your husband -(Titus 2:4).
When he is sad, cheer him.
When he is noble, praise him.
When he is generous, appreciate him.
When he is talkative, listen to him.
When he comes or goes, kiss him.
These four guidelines -help him, follow him, respect him, love him -can and should translate into four lifetime goals for you if you are married. And these next ten disciplines should assist you in the management of your marriage.
Ten Disciplines for a Meaningful Marriage
1. You shall center your life on the Lord…
Dear wife, don’t worry about what your husband is or isn’t doing to cultivate his spiritual life. Concern yourself with making sure you are a godly wife, that your life is centered on the Lord.
2. You shall pray for your husband.
Through prayer, refesh your commitment to your marriage and your husband daily.
3. You shall know your roles.
Remember “God’s Four Words for Wives” – help him, follow him, respect him and love him. It wouldn’t hurt to include in your prayer time each day a fresh commitment to live by these four guidelines. These roles should become par of your thought process and actions each day.
4. Your shall study your mate.
When you marry him, love him.
After you marry him, study him.
5. You shall be a servant.
Marriage is more than finding the right person. It is being the right person!
6. You shall follow your husband’s leadership.
His role of leader in the marriage doesn’t mean you can’t learn how to communicate openly, honestly, and sweetly with your husband, presenting your case, even appealing. But it does mean that you go into each situation with the mindset that you are going to follow your husband’s leadership if at all possible.
7. You shall make sure your husband is #1.
For the best marriage possible, both husband and wife are to leave (the union and the emotion previously enjoyed with parents and family) and to cleave (glue themselves to their mate.)–Gen. 2:24,Mark 10:7-8, Eph.5:31. Simply stated, we are to place our husband first in our life, in our heart, and in our time. Our husband is to be a higher priority than our children, parents, family, friends, Christian women, work and workmates, hobbies, etc. Our husband is to be second only to God in our allegiance and loyalty.
8. You shall talk things over.
This will require a commitment, first of all, to listen to him…it’s important that you and your husband seek to agree on the many issues that challenge any marriage – finances, raising the children, the daily schedule, your priorities and goals as a couple, how you spend your evening and weekends…and vacations.
9. You shall heed a few “don’ts.”
Don’t be contentious (Proverbs 19:13; 27:15). Don’t nag like the constant drip that drives one insane (Proverbs 27:15). And don’t embarrass your husband by your speech, your appearance, your behavior, or your neglect of family and home (Proverbs 31:11-12)
10. You shall make each day fun.
Do you remember how much fun you and your sweetie had when you were dating? The crazy things you did? The laughter? The fun? Well, step back into those “happy days” and make sure each day involves the same light-hearted joy. After all a husband and wife are to continually rejoice in one another (Proverbs 5:18.)
Friends, there is a goldmine of more inspiration in Elizabeth George’s book Life Management for Busy Women. She covers the management of your spiritual life, physical life, home life, financial life, social life, mental life, and ministry life all in this one little book. And I am forever grateful for how this one little book has touched my life.
Chime In: How are you doing with these 10 Disciplines Elizabeth has given us. Which is the hardest for you? Which is the easiest?
Have you read any of Elizabeth George’s books? Which ones? Feel free to share a favorite quote from one of her books in the comment section if you have one.
Walk with the King,
**This post is a part of the Top 10 Quotes on Marriage and Motherhood Series. Each Monday I am featuring one book that was used as a resource for my book that is about to be released October 1st! I want to invite all my blogging friends to join this series by sharing your favorite books and quotes on marriage and motherhood in your blogs and then linking it up here so we can read your favorites too! Just put this little graphic in your post and then link up below!