Hooray! We are at the half-way point. We have completed the first half of the book Women Living Well - on Your Walk with God and Your Marriage. Now we are up to the section titled: “Your Parenting.”
Let’s Discuss Chapter 11 – A Mother’s Influence
In Chapter 14, I write about the influence of a mother.
Abraham Lincoln reportedly said, “All that I am, or hope to be, I owe to my mother.”
The Statue of Liberty was said to be modeled after the sculptor’s mother.
When Super Bowl football players look into the camera – they don’t say “Hi, Dad” –they yell, “Hi Moooooooooooooom!!!”
Children are sponges. They soak up the influence of their mother. And though your name may never be in lights – we must not forget the many many unnamed mothers who rocked the cradles of great men and women who changed the world. They will forever be unnamed, but their influence is with us forever.
Do you wonder some days if what you are doing matters – changing diapers, kissing boo boos, making peanut butter and jelly sandwiches over and over and over. We say night time prayers and tuck littles ones in bed and then they pop right.back.out.of.bed. Oh! That is frustrating – I know!!! And then there’s those moments when we lose our temper and feel like the worst moms ever. We wonder if we are a failure or if our kids are going to end up in counseling forever. Lol! The overflowing laundry baskets and sticky kitchen floors are enough to make a mom want to run away. But you don’t. You are strong! You keep going – loving, feeding, caring, helping and working hard for your family.
You are priceless.
Don’t give up – don’t waste your influence. Call on the name of the Lord for help and keep going.
Let’s Discuss Chapter 12 – Parenting in the Digital Age
As I think about our influence as moms – I wonder how we influence our children through our use of technology. Little eyes are watching.
One key, I learned from my parents, was to not hold a double standard.
For example, if a movie was unacceptable for me as a child because of violence, language or sexual content –it was not okay for my parents to see either! They didn’t have an imaginary age when suddenly, we could watch more “adult” content. Though some movies had a rating of PG-13 – my parents felt they were unacceptable for me at age 16 –and them at age 43! If it was not good for me to see — it was not good for them to see either.
It is SO very important that we practice what we preach. My parents were powerful role models and eventually their convictions became my convictions.
“I will set before my eyes no vile thing. The deeds of faithless men I hate. They will not cling to me.”
Three of my main points summed up in this chapter are:
1.) Be aware of what your children are doing! It is our job as parents to pay attention and know what they are doing on social media or on the web.
2.) Know Your Child. Is gossip their weakness? Watch their texting. Do they have a thirst for violence? Monitor their video games. Are they curious about the opposite sex – be on guard for porn. Are they lonely? Do not let them talk to strangers that could be predators. Each child will have their own unique struggles that will require guidance. That is our job – to impart knowledge and wisdom to our children – especially in their areas of weakness – don’t forget there is an enemy who wants you to not care or be naive.
3.) Teach them to think for themselves. We will not always be able to oversee our children’s internet use. As they grow older, they will begin to use the internet at their friends house or the library or on their phones when we are not around. Train your child to have a godly conscience and a healthy fear of God – so they are convicted when they go outside the bounds on-line
On Friday, we skipped the webcast video for a special Valentine Video – so today’s video is that webcast.
This video was the Opening session to the Women Living Well Conference this summer. I know that it’s long (42 minutes) but if you can sneak in just the first 10 minutes – it will be WELL worth your time! I guarantee you are going to get a laugh out of Karen Ehman’s opening skit and laughter is good medicine – so don’t miss this! Following her skit – I speak for 15 minutes about marriage and motherhood and then 6 of my blogging friends join me on the couch for a 20 minute discussion.
(If you cannot see this video – click here)
1. When you think of the concept of our children being sponges who are soaking in what they see and hear and observe in us spiritually, how does this make you feel? Does this cause you concern in any area? If so which one?
2. Read Philippians 4:8. How can this verse be used as a grid to determine what guidelines your family will have about using devices in this digital age?
For extra discussion go to the forum and click on the thread that says Chapters 11 & 12.
Walk with the King,