Do you ever have hard days in your marriage and wonder if you married the wrong person? Perhaps your spouse has failed to meet your expectations or completely changed into a person you do not recognize. Then what?
Today, we are covering the reading from Genesis 24 & 25. We see a beautiful love story as God orchestrates the finding of Rebekah to marry Isaac.
Abraham’s servant is sent to the city of Nahor. These are the words of the servant:
“Let the young woman to who I shall say ‘Please let down your jar that I may drink,’ and who shall say, ‘Drink, and I will water your camel’ – let her be the one whom you have appointed for your servant Isaac.” Genesis 24:14
Before the servant had finished speaking – beautiful Rebekah appears and fulfills his words!
Boom – just like that we have a love connection!
And off to the father and brother of Rebekah the servant goes, asking for her hand in marriage. The request is granted and not a day passes and Rebekah is whisked away to a new land. Now watch this marriage as it takes place.
64 Rebekah also looked up and saw Isaac. She got down from her camel 65 and asked the servant, “Who is that man in the field coming to meet us?”
“He is my master,” the servant answered. So she took her veil and covered herself.
66 Then the servant told Isaac all he had done. 67 Isaac brought her into the tent of his mother Sarah, and he married Rebekah. So she became his wife, and he loved her; and Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death.
Match made in heaven right? Well, almost.
I mean it was clearly orchestrated sovereignly by God. Rebekah had a beautiful trusting spirit that led her to leave her own family, at the drop of a hat, and marry Issac. And all seems well until…the kids show up.
First, we see in Genesis 25, Rebekah is barren. Once again, God’s chosen people are being forced to depend upon God for the opening of their womb. After Isaac’s prayer, Rebekah conceives with twins. But her pregnancy doesn’t seem normal as the children are wrestling IN HER WOMB! Bah!
Can you imagine? And she inquires of the Lord why and He answers in Genesis 25:23:
And the Lord said to her,
“Two nations are in your womb,
and two peoples from within you shall be divided;
the one shall be stronger than the other,
the older shall serve the younger.”
This was a prophecy of what was to come. Esau and Jacob would be born and Jacob would steal Esau’s blessing.
And here’s the kicker, Isaac favored Esau over Jacob and Rebekah favored Jacob over Esau. This laid the grown work for marital issues.
Rebekah orchestrated a plan to deceive her own husband and trick him into giving the birthright to her favorite son.
Deception. Manipulation. Failed expectations.
In Genesis 27:33, we see how Isaac responds to Rebekah’s trickery:
33 Then Isaac trembled very violently and said, “Who was it then that hunted game and brought it to me, and I ate it all before you came, and I have blessed him? Yes, and he shall be blessed.”
Uh Oh – a match made in heaven? I’m thinking that’s not how Isaac is feeling right about now. But he did not marry the wrong person. We know clearly from how their marriage began, this was definitely the wife Isaac was to have.
Often times, marriage begins in wedded bliss but as the years pass on and conflict arises we can look at the person we married and think – what have I done? I hear so many stories of women saying, he’s not who I thought I married or I married the wrong person – can I get out?
Marriage is hard. As I read the true stories of Godly men and women in the Bible, I see that their marriages were a struggle too. I see the pain and suffering that sin inside the marriage causes. I see flawed heroes in need of the same grace of Jesus as we need in our marriages today.
May we remember that no man – no matter how Godly he appears at the start – is perfect. Stress and selfishness and sin can creep into all marriages. None of us are immune to the effects of sin. Conflicts in marriage do not mean we married the wrong person.
Let’s commit ourselves once again to the man we vowed before God and man, to love to the end.
Commit to work through the hard things and give grace for his short-comings.
Remember that our husbands are married to us – sinners. We fail them sometimes too and we need their grace in those moments.
Rebekah reaped some hard consequences for her poor choices and we’ll discuss those on Friday.
But until then ~
Do you relate to the changes that kids and stress bring into marriage? Have you struggled at times with the thought that maybe you married the wrong person? Do you see how the enemy would like to use these thoughts to break your faithfulness to your husband?
Rebekah was beautiful but she allowed her inner beauty to fade. How are you working on your inner beauty for your husband?
Walk with the King,
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**Disclaimer: If your husband is abusing you or has been unfaithful, please seek safety and counseling.