On April 24th I shared with you all that I had begun a ” 30 Day Gentleness Challenge“. For the last 18 days, 4 moms and I have been keeping each other accountable as we work on displaying the fruit of the Spirit – gentleness – our goal was to work on not raising our voices or speaking harsh words to our children. So every morning we report to each other how we did the previous day.
We want to abide by Proverbs 15:1 “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” and Proverbs 31:26 “She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.” It seems that with our children – the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.
So you wanna know how I’m doing??? Hmmmm…should I tell the truth??? The good news is I have not raised my voice to the children in 18 days – that is a victory – does that sound terrible to admit that I do raise my voice at them from time to time?
But in the area of keeping my words wise and gentle – rather than harsh and critical – I have failed… well a number of times. One day I thought I had done quite well being patient with my son, who was refusing to clean his room. He gave me a bit of attitude and lip about it. Rather than giving him a consequence and then walking away – I instead chose a choice lecture. After the long winded lecture – I realized – wow – that wasn’t gentle speech. I was completely convicted and realized that I give “harsh lectures” from time to time that need to be ejected from my life! I quickly apologized to him and sought out his forgiveness.
The best part of this challenge is that God’s word and Spirit are shining light on dark areas of my life. There are things that in “secret” no one sees – but God is bringing light to those dark areas and because I have humbled myself to the conviction of the Spirit, I am being freed from Satan’s grip.
It has been refreshing to realize that the other 4 moms struggle too – I am not alone. There has been no room for pride – we have all been open and honest with our failings and as a result I feel like real change and transformation has come to our homes! Thank you Jesus for freeing us!
Join me in my freedom – and pursue gentleness in your life. Pursue it not just in parenting but in all your relationships – as you deal with your husband, extended family members, co-workers and fellow Christian friends.
Romans 8:37 says “In all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.” There are 12 days left in this challenge…We cannot do this in our flesh – we must walk in the Spirit if we want to be conquerors. Are you gentle?
Walk with the King!