Help Your Husband Be A Man of Influence

Wednesdays In the Word: Proverbs 31:23 “Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.”

It’s Week 15 of our Proverbs 31 Series. So far we have seen that the Proverbs 31 woman rises early, works eagerly, works vigorously, shops wisely, even in the evenings she is extremely productive, she extends her beautiful hands to the poor, she is prepared for every season and her clothing is a reflection of her character: classy.

Now we come to the point in the passage where we learn more about her husband. Who is he? he is respected at the city gate where he sits among the elders. This man is a man of respect, honor and influence. As the Proverbs 31 woman works vigorously at home serving her husband and family, she frees her husband to sit at the city gate in a position of influence. His wife and his well ran home bring him honor in the community.

Do you bring honor to the name of your husband by the way you run your home?

Are you mindful of the fact that the way you run your home is a reflection of your husband and his influence? If your husband cannot lead at home, how can he lead in the community?

Do you compete with your husband for respect or do you allow him to have the respect that is due him out in public?

Are you and your husband going two separate directions in life – each striving after your own pursuits or are you following your husband’s lead?

This husband in Proverbs 31 is one lucky man! He has landed a wife that most men could only dream of landing! And it has catapulted him in life to a place of influence. You know the saying “behind every good man is a good woman”. That is definitely the case here!

In our culture, we tend to bristle at the thought of staying out of the spot light so our husband can shine. Elizabeth George puts it beautifully here:

Proverbs 12:4 “A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown”

“God’s beautiful woman is pleased to be her husband’s crown. Shunning the spotlight, she gladly gives her life behind the scenes so that her husband may be noticed and honored. She is glad when he is the center of attention, when he excels, when he is recognized, when he rises to the top. Indeed, she delights in living in his shadow. His promotion is her greatest reward. She desires that her husband be highly respected and esteemed, so she contentedly offers the supreme sacrifice of herself for him.”

—Elizabeth George, Beautiful in God’s Eyes

Follow in the footsteps of the Proverbs 31 woman today – your husband will be blessed!

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  1. There are MANY areas in my life I need to improve (including areas in my marriage), but one thing I try to do is to not complain about my husband. He's a good man, and I try to keep my thoughts about my silly frustrations with him to myself. I have a hard time listening to other women tear their husband's down — especially over little faults.

    I think not complaining is an easy way to show respect. It's not quite the same as giving up the spotlight, but I think it reflects a home of compassion. He doesn't complain about me either (at least that I know of!) ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. Thanks for the encouraging post! I really need to be a better, encouraging wife for my husband! ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. I absolutely love Elizabeth George's book, Beautiful in God's Eyes. It one of my favorite's that I read again and again.

    Thanks for posting these….the Proverbs 31 woman is my favorite topic!!

  4. A woman's role is like weaving different threads together into a family. The woman gently grasps the material, working it in, one at a time, over and over. It is an art, a function – and most people, even husbands at times, only recognize the finished product. It takes concentration, un-doing and re-doing, a firmness of conviction.

    My husband and I are a team, though sometimes I do not realize all that he goes through to be that man of honor in the workplace. He does not understand all the nuances that I go through to achieve the homelife he comes back to every day.

    I love that the Proverb woman is a woman of action, control in her life with choices that impact her family.

    Thank you for your post.

  5. Great verse!! Thank you for reminding me that I'm not old-fashioned, but fashioned by God for His purposes in my home!

  6. This is a great post Courtney and a very insightful look into the Proverbs 31 woman's life and marriage. Thanks for sharing! I will be thinking lots about this one…

  7. That is very interesting. I know it is hard for most married women to put their husbands needs first. I had to struggle with that very issue during a tough time in my life a couple of years ago. But I think I am doing much better with my marriage now. Thanks for sharing this!

  8. Thank you as always. Wise words… I love my husband and I desire to bring him honor and "shower him" with praise-worthy living.

    You are a blessing.


  9. What a wonderful post! So many great points and questions for thought and ponderance! Thank you for this thought provoking and truthful post. It's pretty awesome! A true blessing to us Christian wives looking to be a better spouse to their husbands.

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