Sometimes life throws us a curve ball. As we seek to make our homes a haven, reality strikes — headaches, hormones, financial pressures, and difficult relationships stand in the way of our dreams.
Recently, I was listening to a speaker who said, “we should balance every negative interaction with 10 positive ones”.
Our negativity can become like a heavy cloud in our homes when we are expressing frustrations (not just about our husband or children) but with the world in general. We can seem unhappy and make others feel like they are walking on egg shells when they are around us. This negativity is contagious and can become like a wet blanket over the home.
Do you have a running list of negatives in your head?
Do you find yourself complaining a lot?
Do you regularly point out everything wrong with your home, husband, kids, church, school, community and the world?
There is power in being a positive woman! Your family will smile back at you! It’s contagious!
Last week, I encouraged you to light a candle and pray for peace and patience in your home. I want to again – encourage you to continue lighting your candles and this week – let’s add to our candle, classical, worship or upbeat music that your family enjoys.
It has a strange effect on people. Certain songs can flood our minds with good memories. Others can touch a painful and tender place deep inside of us and cause us to cry. Other songs make us lift our hands in worship or to break down and boogie!
Music changes the atmosphere of our homes.
Edith Shaefer says “There is a charm in making music together which not only stimulates interest and creativity, but which breaks through whining and fussing and clears the atmosphere.”
Music is a positive change! There is power in being positive!
In our home, soft piano music plays 24/7. Yes, even in the middle of the night we have music going. We can’t hear it in our bedrooms, but I like coming down the stairs in the morning to a serene atmosphere.
Now we can’t have our candles burning, our music going and prayers for peace going up to God and not pause to take a look at our own hearts. Is there anything we are doing with our words that could be stirring up strife and interrupting peace in our homes?
Proverbs speaks to the power of our tongue and the power it has to create strife or to bring peace.
Here’s 9 Positive Changes We Can Make
1.) Pursue Discernment
“Wisdom is found on the lips of the discerning.”
2.) Hold Your Tongue
“When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.”
3.) Hold your Tongue Some More! Lol!
“A man who lacks judgment derides his neighbor, but a man of understanding holds his tongue.”
4.) Overlook Insults
“A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult.” Proverbs 12:16
5.) Use Your Tongue to Bring Healing
“Reckless words pierce like a sword but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”
6.) Guard Your Lips
“He who guards his lips guards his life, but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin.”
7.) Be Slow to Anger
“A quick tempered man does foolish things.”
8.) Give Gentle Answers
“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh words stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1
9.) Use Restraint
“A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered.”
There’s a lot of food for thought there in Proverbs. Just think – if we actually followed the wisdom of God in these verses, how our homes and relationships would be transformed!
Take heart…we all fail – we all mess up. The cross says, we are all flawed and in need of God’s grace and strength to overcome. Repent and apologize to those you have wronged with your words.
This is why I love my candle and soft music. In the midst of my struggles and life’s curve balls, my candle keeps on burning and my soft music…keeps on playing.
Morning, noon and night they serve me. My candle serves me with a flickering warm light, a pleasant scent, and a reminder to turn to God as my source of strength and help.
My music serves me with a soothing sound.
They don’t make messes, they don’t need managed, they just simply bless me and my family. That’s why I sure hope you will give this week’s challenge a try!
Here’s this week’s challenge:
Keep your candles burning, your prayers going and add soft music in your home. Choose worship, classical, jazz or another form of peaceful music that the family enjoys. Focus on using peaceful words and maintaining peaceful relationships. Work on gentleness and self-control this week.
Bonus Challenge – Try exchanging every negative interaction with 5 positives ones (10 is a bit much! Lol!). We started doing this in our home last week and it brought a lot of laughs but also a lot of awareness to the kids and my husband and I of how often we are negative! It sure isn’t easy to live out but there is power in being a positive woman.
Together, let’s do this!
Walk with the King,
Are you taking the challenge this week? What kind of music is playing in your house? Have you been lighting your candle? How has God worked in your home through this challenge?
Personal note: My two favorite CD’s that play all day and night are George Winston’s December Piano Music and David Nevue’s O Come Emmanuel Piano Music. I own many David Nevue Albums and love them all!