Do you find it hard to love difficult people? Me too!
Whose name comes to mind when you think of someone hard to love?
Friends, you are not alone if you have some difficult people in your life that test your limits of love. Love comes from the Lord and sometimes we need his supernatural strength to love people the way he would have us love them.
One way we get his help is through reading his word. As we continue to read in God’s word and seek Him, morning after morning, day in and day out, week in and week out, month in and month out, year in and year out, the joy of the Lord and his peace fills us with love.
Then we are able to love well – despite the hurt we have experienced.
Then we are able to love well – despite how difficult someone is being.
Then we are able to love well – despite the temptation to return an insult for an insult.
God’s Word teaches us to love. He has the power to soften your heart and help you love difficult people no matter how hurt or angry you feel!
Let’s take a look together at what his word says.
Here’s 10 Verses for When You Find it Hard to Love Someone-
1. God commands us to love everyone just as He has loved us.
This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. ~John 15:12
2. Let your actions and responses be honorable, not evil.
Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. ~Romans 12:17
3. In the same unstoppable way that you seek to be loved, love others.
As you wish that others would do to you, do so to them. ~Luke 6:31
4. Being mean and hateful only causes more problems- but showing love can produce healing.
Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses. ~Proverbs 10:12
5. Everyone God has placed into our lives – brothers, sisters, Aunts, Uncles, co-workers, church members, cashiers, bank tellers, coffee baristas, bus drivers, you name it – we are commanded to love them.
Walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love. ~Ephesians 4:1-2
6. Take the focus off of the other person and evaluate your own sin and the motives of your heart.
Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? ~Matthew 7:3-4
7. No matter how hurt you are, you must extend forgiveness to that person just as you have been forgiven.
Bear with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgive each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. ~Colossians 3:13
8. Trust that God is in control and He will repay according to His will.
Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” ~Romans 12:19
9. Be obedient to God’s Word- He will reward you accordingly.
Love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return, and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, for he is kind to the ungrateful and the evil. ~Luke 6:35
10. We are bound by Biblical principles to be patient and kind to those of different opinions and behaviors that we do not necessarily agree with.
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. ~1 Corinthians 13:4-7
When we accepted God’s grace through faith in Christ, we freely received an outpouring of God’s love. In return, we are commanded to love others as we love ourselves. This means we are to love believers and unbelievers and even our enemies.
Love is a debt that we will never pay-off. As soon as we pay it, we still owe more. It’s tempting to think after we have done something good and loving toward someone else, that we did our “good deed” for the day or week or month. But that is not how God sees it.
Is there someone you need to love better? A friend, a spouse, a child, a co-worker or an enemy? May the degree of our self-seeking be the degree of our self-giving.
Keep walking with the King!
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If you’re looking to study this topic further, I would recommend the book of 1 Corinthians. 1 Corinthians will help us to focus on keeping unity and love at the forefront of our lives.
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