I JUST finished my book last weekend and turned it into the publisher. Woohoo! Now I wait for them to let me know their thoughts on the content and their editorial changes.
In the book, I talk a lot about my childhood and how my parents raised me. I tell my mother’s story of salvation and much about her walk with God that influenced my walk with God.
I tell my mother’s story.
“We will not hide them from their children; we will tell the next generation the praiseworthy deeds of the LORD, his power, and the wonders he has done.” ~ Psalm 78:4
As I reflect on my writings, sometimes mom and I laugh because she does not remember the stories the way I do. My childlike perspective is different from her adult one.
The influence of a mother.
I’ve sat across tables from many women who have shared with me the wounds their mother has inflicted on them from harsh words or being absent.
The influence of a mother.
Have you ever thought – one day your children will tell your story…from their childlike perspective.
What will be your story?
I’ve written a lot about my life on this blog…I feel like I’ve told my story…but the reality is there are two sides to every story.
One day - MY kids – they will tell MY story.
They will tell others I had a __________(fill in the blank) mom. She was always ________________. She did ______________________ everyday. She ___________and__________________ and _________________________. This is how I feel about her now- __________________________.
Will those blanks be filled in with the words that say - she loved and listened and laughed and lived courageously lifting her prayers up faithfully for the family or will they say she yelled and was tired and was stressed and was distracted by her computer.
They will tell my story and their story will be my truth.
You see many of the minor things I share now in my book, that my mother did – my mom has long forgotten but they are ingrained on my soul forever. What minor things am I doing that are life changers for my kids. It’s the little things that seem insignificant that make up the days of our lives.
I encourage you today to ask your kids to fill in these blanks –to get a temperature for how you are doing in the home and how you are being perceived. Of course, sometimes mommies are unpopular for not letting the kids eat candy and play all day long and as a result they may say something negative –that’s not what I’m talking about here. This is about getting to the heart of the matter and giving our kids a safe haven and a place where they can be honest, so we can hear their truth.
Ask your children to tell you your story. Listen. Learn. Love.