The title of my blog is Women Living Well. I write to women only –
– but from time to time I receive an email that says, “my husband is so glad I read your blog – he reads over my shoulder.” :)
And so though my ministry is to women –I wanted to follow up last Monday’s post about our Husband’s Headship with an open letter to the husband who might be peaking over his wife’s shoulder.
We wives have loved you since the day you slipped that ring on our finger. You were everything we dreamed of and more! We want to live a life filled with open hearts, open dreams and 2 hearts beating as one. Some days we sense distance – we draw near but you are under the stress of work and bills and daily pressures. We know you just need us to hold your hand and be still. We want to talk till the the sunsets and then comes up again and we know – you don’t. We know that living with a woman is not always easy - we are such opposites and yet this is what makes the possibility for intimacy endless.
Sometimes we attempt to lead – either it’s because you are being silent in an area that matters to us or we want to change your mind. It may almost appear that we don’t want you to lead us.
But do you really want to know the truth?
Do you really want to know our hearts cry?
Here’s what we really want.
We want to know that you are walking with the King. We want to see your Bible open and your head bowed in prayer. We want to hear about what God is laying on your heart for the vision of our family. We want to pray with you over your hopes and dreams and struggles. We want to help you reach your goals. We want to be a strong woman behind a great man.
We want you to be a great man.
But sometimes we get scared. We are scared to follow your lead because we aren’t sure where you are headed. We get scared to follow your lead because it’s so hard to surrender control.
But we need you.
YOU –are irreplaceable in this family and we want you to live out your God-given role in our home.
For His glory…
Friends, I think this video displays well the struggles on BOTH sides. I hope you will watch it and pray for your spouse during it.
(if you cannot see the video – click here to view it)
Wives, do you see the burden your husband’s carry?
This video captures both sides so well. For a moment, imagine the burden your husband carries on his broad shoulders everyday.
The role of leader can be lonely.
And I see the hearts cry of the husband – “Father, lead me cause I can’t do this alone.”
Are you longing for your husband to lead?
There is something you can do –
…and when he steps up and leads…
step back and let him.
Walk with the King,