Tim Tebow took the news media by storm when he shared that he was saving himself for marriage. Opposite World simply hates his desire to be pure. Anyone who believes in abstinence before marriage is painted as looney.
Opposite World tells our teens to be free –just be safe. Use protection. Use birth control. Anything and everything goes – boys with boys, girls with girls. And definitely do not end up 23 and a virgin. That’s worthy of being laughed at and even questioned –is something wrong with you? Try out all your partners and be sure you are compatible. Live together first. Do not marry young –you can’t possibly know at 23 what you want in a spouse. So have fun, live it up, try a few partners and don’t be a prude.
Oy! Where do I start?
Let’s start with Jesus.
“The word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the One and Only, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth.” ~ John 1:14
When Jesus came –he came full of grace and truth.
Grace – sweet grace. I NEED God’s grace.
Truth – sweet truth. I NEED God’s truth.
And so as I wade into the mirky waters of purity, I cling to both equally. Jesus was full of grace AND truth.
Opposite World has been sending us messages for decades about how useless purity is. And my testimony includes saving myself for marriage. My husband has been my one and only and I am his one and only.
I did not play hard to get.
I was hard to get.
Where did these standards come from? My parents. My youth pastor. Purity talks. Purity Books. And God’s word.
I Thessalonians 4:3-8 says:
3 It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should learn to control your own bodyin a way that is holy and honorable, 5 not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God; 6 and that in this matter no one should wrong or take advantage of a brother or sister. The Lord will punish all those who commit such sins, as we told you and warned you before. 7 For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. 8 Therefore, anyone who rejects this instruction does not reject a human being but God, the very God who gives you his Holy Spirit.
As a teen, I read the Bible daily. I believed it and I obeyed it. My committment to Christ was and still is a priority over my passions and desires.
Thank goodness Keith and I started out slow because little did I know at the age of 17, we would date for four long years before marrying and passions would burn inside of us as we battled with temptatation.
God created sex as a pure expression of love between a man and his wife and Opposite World… has twisted and perverted it.
John Piper writes:
“The world should not have its nose or its cameras in our bedroom.
Sex is not a spectator sport – in spite of the billion-dollar industry designed to make it one…it has an audience of three: husband, wife and God, who sees all.” (This Momentary Marriage pg. 128)
Opposite World has degraded the marriage bed.
Purity is mocked and immorality glorified. The singers and actors applauded with Oscars, Emmys and other awards, flaunt their sexuality and Opposite World idolizes it!
But God says ” Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” Hebrews 13:4
Opposite World’s lie –is the lie of the Garden of Eden,
“did God really say that?”
Some question –does God really say a man should not lie with a man? (yes, he does in Romans 1 & I Corinthians 6:9-11) Does God really say we should wait for marriage? (yes, he does in I Corinthians 6:18 & I Thess. 4:3-8) Does God really expect me to stay with one person for the rest of my life? (yes, he does in Hebrews 13:4, Mark 10:8,9, I Corinthians 7:5, & Proverbs 5;19)
And sadly, sometimes, I see the enemy’s whispers persuading even those within the church to look just.like.Opposite.World.
This ought not to be so!
We must be in God’s word. We must know God’s word. We must obey God’s word. We must teach our sons and daughters God’s word…or the enemy will whisper the Garden of Eden doubts and get a foothold in our lives.
This is not about our past–but about our future. Some of us may have stumbled and fallen and there is GRACE! There is no sin too great that Jesus’ blood cannot cover. In John 8:11 Jesus tells the woman caught in s*xual sin “go and sin no more.” And he tells those who were about to stone her –”let he who is perfect cast the first stone”.
None of us are perfect. The cross says we are all flawed and in need of a Savior. None of us can cast stones and now that we are equipped with God’s truth – all of us must go and sin no more.
The church needs a revival of Pure Hope.
**Chime In: I know this is a senstive topic – I don’t expect you to hang it all out there in the comments – but if you would like to share your story of Pure Hope - or your thoughts on this topic –we’d love to read it.
Walk with the King,