Let’s Discuss Chapter 8
Today I want to share some thoughts with you from Elisabeth Elliot’s book titled “Let Me Be a Woman”.
Who is it you marry? You marry a sinner. There’s nobody else to marry. That ought to be obvious enough but when you love a man as you love yours it’s easy to forget. You forget it for a while and then when something happens that ought to remind you, you find yourself wondering what’s the matter, how could this happen, where did things go wrong?
They went wrong back in the Garden of Eden. Settle it once for all, your husband is a son of Adam. Acceptance of him – of all of him- includes acceptance of his being a sinner…
You will less likely turn into a nagging wife if you recall continually that it is not only your husband who leaves undone those things which (you think) he ought to do, and does things which (you think) he ought not to do, but that you, too, have erred and strayed like a lost sheep, sinning daily by omission and commission.
The consciousness that we are alike in our need of redemption is a liberating one. For there will be times when you find yourself accusing, criticizing, and resenting. You begin, almost without realizing that you are doing it, to make a mental list of offenses, anticipating the day when some straw will break the came’s back and you can recite the whole list, sure to add at the end “and another thing…!”
But you will find yourself disarmed utterly, and your accusing spirit transformed into loving forgiveness the moment you remember that you did, in fact, marry only a sinner, and so did he. It’s grace you both need.”
Ah yes, grace. Grace changes everything. Grace helps us banish bitterness in marriage.
Often times it is the single women who are told that they need to find contentment in their singleness…but I think married women need the same exhortation.
We must find contentment in our marriages. That’s what this 3 minute video is all about:
(If you can’t see the video – click here to view it)
1.) When conflicts arise in marriage – and they always do – how do you tend to handle them? Are you cranky or critical? Do you suddenly become a history expert and bring up old wounds and mistakes – his not yours? Or do you become withdrawn and sulk, refusing to deal with the matter?
2.) Read Hebrews 12:15. What does it mean for something to take root and spring up in the world of plants (and weeds!)? Why is it dangerous for bitterness to do the same in our heart?
For extra discussion go to the forum and click on the thread that says Chapter 8.
Walk with the King,