In the book of Job we see Job’s misery drag on for months. During this time, his friends added to his pain. Job said of his three friends:
Miserable comforters are you all! (16:2)
Are you a comforter?
When I think of a comforter, I think of a warm quilt. A quilt wraps around a person and makes them feel calm. Job’s friends were the opposite. They added to his misery.
So how do we go on when our misery drags on for months and perhaps your friends are poor comforters?
First let me tell you what NOT to do.
Here’s how to live defeated.
1.) Stare at the television or Netflix or surf the internet night and day, waiting for the feelings to pass.
Boredom breeds misery.
2.) Make others responsible for your happiness.
No one can carry this weight – not your spouse, not your kids, not your mom or sisters and not your friends.
3.) Fight with people over trivial things.
No one enjoys a bitter person who is mad at the world. Starting fights with innocent bystanders like cashiers or having road rage will not make you happier.
4.) Assume the worst in your family, friends or co-workers.
Twisting typical remarks into insults or always assuming others are talking badly behind your back, only causes break downs in your relationships and makes you more miserable.
5.) Live selfishly.
God says it is better to give than to receive. Living selfishly breeds misery.
6.) Ignore the things you should be grateful for.
Studies have shown that those who keep gratitude lists are happier than those who do not. Giving thanks for the little things in our lives each day, lifts our spirits and reminds us that God is good even in the midst of difficult trials.
7.) Blame others for your misery.
Blame your parents, blame your teachers, blame your friends, blame your husband, blame your boss, blame the government, blame your past…just whatever you do – do not take any responsibility for your own feelings.
Instead of living defeated – here is how to live victoriously!
Job says in Job 17:9:
9 Yet the righteous holds to his way,
and he who has clean hands grows stronger and stronger.
Job says the righteous do 3 things when their misery drags on:
1.) They hold to their way.
The righteous do what is right in the midst of their trials and suffering. They do not stray from the path of God and they hold to their way.
2.) They grow.
Romans 5 tells us, “suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame.”
The righteous grow from their trials. Their endurance grows. Their character grows and their hope grows and they are not put to shame.
3.) They grow stronger and stronger.
The righteous don’t just grow – they grow and grow and grow. They become stronger and stronger and stronger and others can see this strength in them.
Oh friends, we cannot grow stronger in our own strength – we need Jesus.
Job proclaims where his deep strength flows from:
For I know that my Redeemer lives,
and at the last he will stand upon the earth.
26 And after my skin has been thus destroyed,
yet in my flesh I shall see God,
27 whom I shall see for myself,
and my eyes shall behold, and not another.
My heart faints within me!
One day – we will see with our own eyes our Redeemer! He is alive today and forevermore and because He lives – we can face tomorrow with victory!
This reminds me of an old hymn titled Victory in Jesus:
I heard an old, old story,
How a Savior came from glory,
How He gave His life on Calvary
To save a wretch like me
I heard about His groaning,
Of His precious blood’s atoning,
Then I repented of my sins
And won the victory.
O victory in Jesus,
My Savior, forever.
He sought me and bought me
With His redeeming blood
He loved me ere I knew Him
And all my love is due Him,
He plunged me to victory,
Beneath the cleansing flood.
Live victoriously today through the power of our Redeemer – He is alive and one day we will see him face to face!
Walk with the King,
I love this video based on the verses in Job 19:25:27 titled: My Redeemer Lives
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