Today we move into chapter 18 of the book of Proverbs and we have a guest! Her name is Mandy and she is a part of the Good Morning Girls Leadership Team!
Mandy is passionate about two things: The Word of God and the Souls of Men (and Ladies!). She is a married to her best friend, and gets the privilege to love on their three blessings (who lost their biological momma leaving her husband widowed).
She spent 9 years in an early childhood classroom, and 4 years in an “in house” seminary program at her home church. She loves to bring God glory through her roles as Christ-follower, Wife and Mother (in that order!)
Mandy is part of the Good Morning Girl Leadership team where she encourages leaders to get into God’s Word each day and invest in the lives of women all over the world. She also blog about living a life of Worship through all aspects of her life at Worshipful Living.
Growing up, I didn’t always dream of being a wife. Sure, I went through a stage when I played with dolls, and would dress them up for the wedding. But as I navigated my way through my teenager years, I wasn’t sure I wanted to get married.
I went to college with big dreams, only to have God change my path.
When God changed my direction, my heart toward marriage changed too. Then, I wanted nothing BUT to get married. I dreamed of it, longed for it, and waited. It seemed like it would never come.
As the “marrying” years started to pass me by, I was a bridesmaid over and over – but never the bride.
Years started to trickle by, and soon, I was past my mid-twenties. There wasn’t a prospect in site.
Instead of focusing on finding the one, I began to focus on God. It was during this time I fell in love with God’s Word in a more powerful way and I began to serve.
It was then that God decided it was time to meet the man I had been waiting for.
He was worth every second of the wait – and I knew God had blessed me exceedingly, abundantly, above all I could ask or think.
You see, toward the end of my wait, I stopped focusing on finding the right one, and I started focusing on being the right one. Not for a man – but for God.
Tucked away toward the end of Proverbs 18, we find verse 22 which says,
“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.”
Tucked into a passage of scripture that is filled with how we should use our words – we find that a wife is a good thing.
Tucked into a passage that talks about humility – we find that a wife is a good thing.
Tucked into a passage that talks about a friend that sticks closer than a brother- we find that a wife is a good thing.
For those who are married, are we a “good thing”? I think the answer is found in the verses surrounding verse 22.
Proverbs 18:18-24 says:
18 The lot puts an end to quarrels
and decides between powerful contenders.
19 A brother offended is more unyielding than a strong city,
and quarreling is like the bars of a castle.
20 From the fruit of a man’s mouth his stomach is satisfied;
he is satisfied by the yield of his lips.
21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue,
and those who love it will eat its fruits.
22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing
and obtains favor from the Lord.
23 The poor use entreaties,
but the rich answer roughly.
24 A man of many companions may come to ruin,
but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
Our husbands need us to know how to use our words.
They need to know they can trust us – that we will speak life.
They need us to know when to share our opinions and when to keep them to ourselves.
They need us to speak wisdom. (My tongue gets me in more trouble than anything else.)
In order to be a “good thing” for my husband, I need to be sure I am keeping my tongue in line.
The main key to keeping it in line for me, is watching what I allow to go in my ears. What we put in our ears will come out of our mouth. So, guard your ears, and you will guard your tongue.
We need to be humble. To be able to place ourselves under their leadership, and trust them as they follow the Lord.
If your husband is not a believer, trust that God will protect and guide your family and use your humility as an opportunity to share the love of Christ with your husband.
Most importantly, our husbands need us to be their friends.
Their best friends.
One that will stick closer than a brother.
The day we got married, we left our father and mother to cleave to our husband. They need to know we have their back. We can do this by always speaking well of our husband to others and by being their biggest fan, cheerleader and prayer warrior.
The last part of Proverbs 18:22 says, when a man finds a wife, “he obtains favor from the Lord”.
A good wife is gift to our husbands from God. May we be the blessing God intended us to be.
Worshiping God With My Life,
Are you married? None of us are a perfect wife. We all make mistakes. In what ways do you guard your words so your husband is protected and honored?
What did you learn in your quiet time in Proverbs 18?