As I read through the hundreds of comments that came in on last Monday’s post (the start of The Gentleness Challenge), I saw so many emotions of guilt, regret, defeat, and even received some emails filled with despair.
I want to say that there is hope – there is hope for all of us. You have taken the first step in making true change by calling sin, sin. When we lose our temper and spout off angry words and lectures at our children – we are sinning.
The second step is to not remain isolated and stagnet in your struggle. When we are isolasted, we become vulnerable to the enemy’s attacks. Having accountability with this community here at Women Living Well will strengthen you – you are not alone! Sally Clarkson says:
Just by showing up here to read today’s post you have completed steps one and two. Now this week we are onto step three.
This Oak tree stands in our front yard and it will tenaciously hold its dead leaves all through the winter. When spring arrives, the new buds will begin to appear and THEN the leaves will fall to the ground.
As I look at those dead leaves, I am reminded of all the fruitless words I’m tempted to use under pressure. It’s not a pretty sight! It’s amazing how running late can make me lose all discernment with my mouth! Like the Oak tree, until I create new life in the space the dead thing holds, I will never change. The Oak tree shows us how adding in something new – pushes out the old.
To break the cycle of sin in our lives we must add in the virtue of gentleness, by default the old vice will be replaced.
For some – this cycle of sin did not start with your generation. Maybe you had a mom who yelled or criticized you regularly and your mom had a mom who yelled and criticized her regularly and now you are repeating that cycle with your children. There may be a strong hold in your family. We cannot do this on our own. We need the transforming power of God within us to make us new.
2 Corinthians 5:17 says: Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!
What is the newness that we walk in?
Galatians 5:22,23 says: But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.
Our Assignment for the week: I encourage you this week to smile more, hug more, SLOW DOWN, listen, take a deep breath. When you feel like screaming – whisper. Pray pray and then pray some more. Take time to write out, meditate and memorize the 2 verses above, as you pursue gentleness.
Next week we’ll discuss anger management. But until then – grab a cup of coffee and listen to Angela and me as we discuss how to encourage our children through story telling, and what true success as a mother really is.
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