Jealousy and Sibling Rivalry {Genesis 4}

jealousy and sibling rivalry

Good Morning Girls!

Welcome back to the Blogging Through the Bible Series!  Today we’re in Genesis 4.

I’m sorry we don’t get to discuss your reading in Genesis 1-3.  In a world where our children are bombarded with the Big Bang theory and evolution, it is vital that we know the truth about creation and remember that it takes a leap of faith to believe in creationism AND it takes a leap of faith to believe in the big bang theory.

I believe our ability to debate and appeal to reason points to an intelligent designer.  Is it possible to take a hand full of metal, throw them up in the air and get a watch that works and tells time perfectly? No, clearly every watch has a watch maker. In the same way, our bodies are made with eyes that see out of a tiny black circle and hands with unique finger prints and a womb to birth babies. It is so intricate and complex! The human body alone is evidence of an intelligent designer.

But I digress.  Today – we are moving into Genesis 4 and looking at the first dysfunctional family in history, Adam and Eve and their children Cain and Abel.

Genesis 4:1-8

Adam made love to his wife Eve, and she became pregnant and gave birth to Cain. She said, “With the help of the Lord I have brought forth a man.” 2 Later she gave birth to his brother Abel.

Now Abel kept flocks, and Cain worked the soil. 3 In the course of time Cain brought some of the fruits of the soil as an offering to the Lord. 4 And Abel also brought an offering—fat portions from some of the firstborn of his flock. The Lord looked with favor on Abel and his offering, 5 but on Cain and his offering he did not look with favor. So Cain was very angry, and his face was downcast.

6 Then the Lord said to Cain, “Why are you angry? Why is your face downcast? 7 If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it.”

8 Now Cain said to his brother Abel, “Let’s go out to the field.” While they were in the field, Cain attacked his brother Abel and killed him.

First let’s note that Adam and Eve had a perfect father – the Heavenly Father…there was no reason for their sin.  God did not fail them.  So when our children make wrong choices, let’s remember to not always blame ourselves.  Sometimes we can do many things right and our children still choose wrong.

Next we note from this passage that Adam and Eve had two sons and the oldest was jealous of the youngest and so he killed his brother. UGH!

Can you say – dysfunctional?

I’m sad to admit that sibling rivalry began in our home the day we brought home baby #2. I had no idea there would be such a struggle to see who is the king of the hill!

Since the beginning of time there has been sibling rivalry. Cain killed Abel.  Then there was Jacob and Esau – twins fighting over birth rights. And then Jacob showed favoritism toward Joseph and once again – sibling rivalry broke out over a coat of many colors. And then there’s Cinderella and her step-sisters – but that’s a whole other story right? :-) Lol!

What brought about the murderous feelings of Cain?  Jealousy. The Lord looked on Abel with favor and did not have favor towards Cain.

Cain was even warned by the Lord Almighty to do what is right and he would earn the Lord’s favor but rather than doing the work to have what Abel had, Cain decided he’d destroy Abel.

Jealousy destroys.

“Blowing out the light of someone else’s candle won’t make yours shine brighter.”

A content and satisfied person is not a jealous person.

A woman with a deep walk and trust of God has no need to be jealous of anyone.  She knows with confidence that if she is meant to have the thing she desires, God would give it to her.  Character is developed in the waiting and in the temptations to covet.

It’s hard to watch someone, who you may feel, has a worse voice land the solo in the church concert or to be passed by for a promotion at work.

It hurts.

But in the midst of our dreams may we never become jealous of those who already have what we dream of.

Jealousy will make us criticize, gossip and tear down another woman but jealousy has nothing to do with the other person- it’s demonic.  It is not from God.  It is sin and it’s a lack of trust in God’s will for your life.

This is a hard truth right?

But we can’t chase after things – we must chase God!

James 4:1,2 says:

What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? 2 You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God.

Jealousy leads to fighting and in Cain’s case – to killing.

But why do we not have what we desire?  James 4 says, “because you do not ask God.”  The way to get what we want, is to ask God and if He wants us to have it – He will give it to us.

No one else can fix the jealousy that appears in our hearts.  God may be using that thing we want, to speak to us and say – “desire me first.”

We can’t always help the first time we feel the feelings of jealousy – but we can help the second time we feel this way.

As the Lord said to Cain: “If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it.”

Once we detect this sin, we must attack it with confession, prayer, scripture and accountability.  We must rule over it!

Jealousy is truly hatred which is why it turned into killing for Cain.

“Love is not jealous.”  ~ I Corinthians 13:4

Now consider this, the first four disciples Jesus called to follow Him were two sets of brothers!  (Simon-Peter and Andrew, then James and John) Jesus called siblings to be His disciples.  These siblings obviously did not have rivalries like the previous list I mentioned. They shared a heart for God and a passion to serve him and together they were greater than when they stood alone.

Let’s raise children who do not rival one another but love each other.

Let’s teach our children how to rule over this temptation by leading them to desire God more than anything else on earth.

Let’s strive to be content and satisfied with the lot in life God has given us today.

Let’s support our birth sisters and our sisters in Christ and be happy for them when they receive blessings from God.

Remember, this issue of the heart has nothing to do with others and everything to do with our own character.

**Chime In:

Have you experienced a struggle with your birth siblings or sisters in Christ that was rooted in jealousy?

How do you find contentment when jealousy tries to sneak in on you?  What verses do you turn to, when you are facing this struggle?  How do you attack it in your life?

What else is God teaching you through your reading in Genesis chapters 1-4?

I’ll meet you back here this Friday with a video covering Genesis 6!

If you need the materials for Genesis - they are available here.

Walk with the King!

Courtney

Week 1's plan

Introducing – Genesis! Are You In?

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Good Morning Girls!

Here we go again – it’s a new month – a fresh start!

Did you get behind last month – no problem!

You can start again – there is no right or wrong way to read God’s word. There is not a correct formula or method given in scripture.  We simply need to open our Bibles and there – God speaks!

Jesus is…

the living well
the bread of life
the light of the world
the door
the good shepherd
the way
the truth
the resurrection
and the life!

Let’s savor his word together!  One chapter a day in the book of Genesis!

Here’s this week’s reading plan:

Week 1's plan

Here’s this month’s printable bookmark:

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This is a free printable – click here to print it.

Here are this month’s printable SOAP eWorkbooks.

Remember, you choose which verses to SOAP, they will not be assigned by GMG. ;)

Genesis short eWorkbook

Genesis long eWorkbook

Looking for the Dutch, German, Spanish, Portuguese and Croatian translations of the workbooks? Go to the translations page —> here.

Are you in? Are you ready to commit to reading just one chapter a day?

If you are –  there’s no registration, enrollment (and subscribing to the blog is optional – just enter your email address on the sidebar)…simply leave a comment letting us know!  And I’ll be here holding you accountable every step of the way.

Walk with the King,

Courtney

**Did you miss Friday’s video –  here it is again:

Slowing the Pace of Life to Meditate {Psalm 1}

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 I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.~John 15:5

Good Morning Girls!

Last year I contributed a post to John Piper’s on-line ministry titled 7 Ways For Busy Moms to Get Into God’s Word.  

The post is about meditation and squeezing all the nourishment we can out of God’s word through out the day.

As we read through God’s word together – cover to cover – one chapter a day, I am thrilled to hear so much great feedback.

You are busy – but you are slowing down.

You are meditating on God’s word.

With this Bible reading plan, it is possible for busy women to delight in God’s Word!

A tree that is lush and bearing fruit is evidence of roots that are in rich soil. They run deep where no one sees, but we know they are there because of the beauty of the tree.

Psalm 1:2,3 compares the righteous man to a tree:

His delight is in the law of the Lord,
and on his law he meditates day and night.

He is like a tree planted by streams of water
 that yields its fruit in its season,
and its leaf does not wither. 

The location of a plant is a choice.  Where have we planted our lives? Are our roots, the hidden parts of our lives, grounded in the living waters of God and His word?

We must choose to slow the pace of life enough, to plant ourselves where our roots can grow deep into God’s word.  Then in the storms of life – we will stand strong and on the sunshine days, we will see fruit produced by the grace of God.

Join me on this video, as I talk about Slowing the Pace:


(if you are reading this in a feed or email – click here to view this 2 minute video)

Elizabeth George has said:

Behind the passionate life of every passionate saint is a passion for God and His Word. 

Let’s make God our constant companion.

Let’s make God’s Word, our hourly guide.

Sunday, September 28th, we begin the Book of Genesis. {October’s reading plan –> is here.}

Slow your pace and make space for just one chapter a day.

You can do this!

JOIN US!!!!!

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Walk with the King,

Courtney

**Chime in:

What is getting in the way of you slowing your pace so you can delight in God’s Word more?

What have you been learning this week as you read through the Bible?

How does the passage of Psalm 1 speak to you?

This week’s reading plan:

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This Good Morning Girl’s Bible Study Journal is AMAZING!

 

Bible Reading Shar

This is Shar!

And friends you are in for a treat today! My regularly scheduled post  is scrapped because I am so incredibly inspired by Shar’s daily instagrams, that I emailed her a few days ago and asked if I could share her journals with you all and she said “yes!” Hooray!

So first a little about Shar aka Gypsy.Mama.nc- she writes:

I’m Shar! I’m 22, I’m a Stay-At-Home mama of 3 boys under 3 (the third being due in less than 2 weeks!), and I have a huge crush on a guy named Robert that I married 4 years ago.

I enjoy: being creative, teaching our children, watching the “Duggars,” a good pair of blue jeans and all of the other good things in life. But more than any of that, I am in love with the One who loved me first, my Savior. Jesus is so much more than religion, He is truly life.

God is continuously shaping me into the masterpiece He planned for me to be long before my existence. There’s been discomfort, pain and even resistance but each day, I’m learning to surrender.

Shar posts on a regular basis a photo of her quiet times and journaling – I am simply fascinated friends! Check this out!

Bible Reading 2, 3 John
Bible Reading 1 Peter 1

 

Bible Reading 1 Peter 3

 

Bible Reading 2 Peter

 

Shar writes:

I journal because its really therapeutic for me and helps me to dig even deeper into God’s Word.

It’s also a way for me to show my gratitude towards God as a form of worship- not worshipping the journal- but worshipping Him *through* the journal… the written out scriptures, observations, applications, prayers, and small illustrations of His what words mean to me. To put the passion my heart has for Him onto paper into a form of art. To praise Him. To confess my sins. To surrender and to cry out to Him. It’s really great to reflect on, to see how far I have came in my walk with God and also things that I need to improve on.

Bible Reading 2 Peter 2 & 3

 

Bible Reading 1 John prayer

 

Bible Reading 1 John 4,5
Bible REading tools

Shar has included a photo of her Bible Study Kit and here is what she wrote about it on her Instagram:

My bible study kit! Basically everything that I use for my personal Bible study. HOWEVER, you don’t “need” any of things for an effective Bible study, all you need is your Bible, #prayer and God of course!

**My Bible {NKJV}
**pencil box to hold craft/washi tape
**tin can for pens, pencils & highlighters {I have way too many so I only keep the ones in here that I use the most often!}
**composition/#1000gifts notebook {where I write down all of my blessings & daily gratitudes… I need to decorate the cover! :)
**spiral tablet {my bible study/prayer journal}
**head phones {sometimes I listen to worship music while spending time with God}
**post-it notes and tabs
**stickers
**and a pink princess bag {courtesy of Dollar Tree!} to keep it all together!

Everything fits in it perfectly, so I can travel outside my home with it as well.

Not pictured is my book light, used if I’m reading the Word in bed while my Hubby’s asleep.

Have you been waiting to commit to read through the Bible with us?  Maybe it feels like too much of a commitment for you.  Just take it one small step at a time.

We are currently in the book of Genesis – and we would LOVE for you to join us now!

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As you see by Shar’s beautiful journals – there is freedom in how you study God’s word. Let it be a joy – an oasis of refreshing living water – that leads you to being a woman –who is living well.

I hope you will join us.

Chime In:

I love seeing and hearing about how other’s do their quiet times.  

Where do you like to read God’s word?
When do you like to read God’s word?
What are your favorite methods or tools?

For more details about our “Reading Through the Bible” Series —> click here.

Walk with the King!

Courtney

 

 Need encouragement in your walk with God?  Pick up a copy of my book:  “Women Living Well: Finding Your Joy in God, Your Man, Your Kids and Your Home.”

October Book of the Month & This Week’s Reading {9.21.14}

Announcing Genesis

 

 

We are excited to announce our October and November
Book of the month!!!

Genesis!

You have emailed and commented and I have listened!  We are going to start providing the month long reading plan on the first Sunday of the month so you do not have to print it out every.single.week.

Just one print out a month!  Print it and fold it and use it as a book mark in your Bible!

This reading plan below begins on Sunday, September 28th and runs through Saturday, November 1st. (this is a 5 week plan)

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This is a free printable – click here to print it.

So you may be wondering why are there no dates or week numbers on our reading plans?

We want everyone to feel like they can join us anytime and they aren’t behind.  Most people won’t join something that is already in “week 5″. But this is flexible and we WANT women to get into God’s word. No barriers.

You also recommended I post this on the sidebar of the blog in case you lose track of where we are in our reading.  I will try that – starting September 28th!

Now onto this week’s reading plan {9.21.14}:

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This is a free printable – click here to print it.

 Here are the free eWorkbooks for this week:

I John – Short eWorkbook
I John Long eWorkbook

II John – Short eWorkbook
II John – Long eWorkbook

III John – Short eWorkbook
III John – Long eWorkbook

Jude – Short eWorkbook
Jude – Long eWorkbook

Psalm 1-30 – Short eWorkbook
Psalm 1-30 – Long eWorkbook

Below is the free printable of every book and chapter of the Bible to mark off as you complete your reading.

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Click here to print the

“Reading Through the Bible with Good Morning Girls” Plan.

 5 International Translations

Spanish Translators: Beth Vollmer Chagas & Julie Chagas

1 John - Spanish Short eWorkbook
1 John – Spanish Long eWorkbook
2 John Long Version Spanish
2 John Short Version Spanish
3 John Long Version Spanish
3 John Short Version Spanish
Jude Long Version Spanish
Jude Short Version Spanish
Psalms 1-30 Long Version Spanish
Psalms 1-30 Short Version Spanish 

Portuguese  Translators: Beth Vollmer Chagas & Julie Chagas

1 John –  Portuguese Short eWorkbook
1 John – Portuguese Long eWorkbook
2 John Long Version Portuguese
2 John Short Version Portuguese  
3 John Long Version Portuguese
3 John Short Version Portuguese
Jude Long Version Portuguese
Jude Short Version Portuguese
Psalms 1-30 Long Version Portuguese
Psalms 1-30 Short Version Portuguese

German Translator: Petra Rushing

1 John – German Short eWorkbook
1 John – German Long eWorkbook
2 John Long Version German
2 John Short Version German
3 John Long Version German
3 John Short Version German
Jude Long Version German
Jude Short Version German

Croatian Translator: Rosilind Jukic at http://dobrojutrodjevojke.blogspot.com

1 John – Croatian Long eWorkbook
2 John Long Version Croatian
2 John Short Version Croatian 
3 John Long Version Croatian
3 John Short Version Croatian
Jude Long Version Croatian
Jude Short Version Croatian
Psalms 1-30 Long Version Croatian
Psalms 1-30 Short Version Croatian

Dutch Translator: Eve Jansen at  http://www.lookaroundthecorner1.blogspot.com    

1 John – Dutch Short eWorkbook
2 John Long Dutch Version
2 John Short Version Dutch 
3 John Short Version Dutch  
Jude Short Version Dutch  
Psalms 1-30 Short Version Dutch  

Another suggestion came requesting I have an image available for those who want to share on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram that they are reading through the Bible with us – so here are two images you are welcome to use! (just right click “save as”)

I am reading through the Bible with GMG

I am reading through the Bible with Good Morning Girls

I am listening to your feedback and open to other suggestions!

I’ll see you back here this Wednesday with a discussion of this week’s reading.

Have a great week as you walk with the King!

Courtney

**To see past resources or learn more about GMG go to the GMG Resource Page.