Today It Begins!!!

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The Women Living Well 4 week Summer Book Club begins today!

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I’ll be back tomorrow with the conclusion to our {Radical} Women –Living Well series.

Until then, Walk with the King!

Courtney

Unseen Hands

Unseen Hands

As I walked into my daughter’s bedroom, I picked up dirty laundry from the floor.  I carried it to the bathroom chute and dropped it in, then hung some towels and wiped up a toothpaste mess.  I proceeded into my son’s room for some straightening and then to my own.  Downstairs, I emptied 2 trashcans and a laundry basket and a suitcase from my husband’s business trip that week.

Thousands of times, I’ve picked up dirty laundry, straightened towels and emptied trash cans – virtually unseen.

Of course when I don’t do these things – everyone sees the overflowing trash can and laundry baskets and the overflow seems to whisper, “you are failing – you are not keeping up – the whole family can clearly see this.”  and I get discouraged.

And so today as I hung my husband’s pants and thought about how this has happened for 16 years virtually unseen — I am reminded of how often God is at work in my life virtually unseen.

He protects me while I sleep, provides food and friends and fun and a bounty of blessings daily both physically and spiritually too – but then something goes all wrong and I wonder – where’s God.

He’s unseen during the issue at hand.  And I get discouraged.

We are not unseen – God sees every little thing we do to bless and care for our families.

He knows.

And we must practice His presence and His pleasure.  We must know that He is there – and will never leave us or forsake us.  And we must never forget that though he is not showing up the way we would have Him show up, He is in our trials – working.

His hand is often unseen – until time passes and we look back.  It is with perspective that we see clearly His hand.

So mamas, as you serve your families today – you are seen. Jesus knows your hurts and your burdens that no one else sees.  He is there and he wants you to come to him.

28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” ~ Matthew 11:28-30

Trade in your heavy burdens for his light load.

Trust in God’s unseen hand to carry you through your weary days.

Chime In: Are you in this place today? Feeling unseen or wondering where God is in the midst of a certain trial? Share your burden in the comment section and let’s pray for one another.  

Walk with the King,

Courtney

Peanut Butter Nutella Fudge – YUM!

Peanut butter nutella fudge

Janelle from Comfy in the Kitchen has a mouth watering dessert recipe for us today! Hooray!

Janelle writes:

Now you see it….now you don’t! That’s the best way to describe this simple, yet delicious Nutella fudge. My sweet friend Katina thought to bring this to me last week….what a gift! I honestly have never seen a dessert vanish so quickly, haha!!! When she told me it had only 3 ingredients, I about fainted! You must try this one Ladies….it’s a keeper.

*Gluten FREE! Great to make with kiddos.

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This is it! Just 3 ingredients…check that out.

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Microwave frosting for approximately 45 seconds, then combine with other ingredients in a bowl.

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Mix well, spread in an 8×8 pan, and refrigerate for 30 mins until set.

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Bada bing. DEEEEElish.

3 Ingredient Peanut Butter Nutella Fudge (SO Easy!)

Serves:8-10
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Ingredients
  • 1 Cup Nutella
  • 1 Cup Peanut Butter
  • 1 16 oz Container Vanilla Frosting
Instructions
  1. Take the lid off of frosting and microwave for 45 seconds.
  2. Combine all ingredients in a mixing bowl-it will start to thicken.
  3. Spread into an 8×8 pan.
  4. Refrigerate for 30 mins until firm.

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speakerJanelle Nehrenz

Janelle is a Christian, a Wife, a Stay at Home Mom of 3 young children and a proud- to- claim- it “Foodie”. You can find her displaying step-by-step photos of her recipes, giving devotionals,and sharing meal ministry stories on her blog. You can follow Janelle’s blog at ComfyInTheKitchen.com Follower her on facebook at Comfy In The Kitchen Follow her on Twitter at ComfynKitchen

5 {Radical} Qualities Young Women Should Pursue

5 Radical qualities young women should pursue

Older women are not off the hook with this post…because all of the qualities listed for young women to learn –older women should be role-modeling for us.  Now remember, grace.  We are all a work in progress and none of us will have these mastered perfectly…ever.   That is why we need the power of Jesus in our lives.  He helps us become the {radical} woman he calls us to be.

Titus 2:3-5 says:

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, 4 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children,to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.

This list from Titus 2 is truly {Radical}.

Let’s take a look at the 5 {Radical} qualities young women should pursue according to Titus 2:5.

1.) Self-Control  

A {radical} young woman pursues self-control.  She is self-controlled with her spending habits, her words, her temper, her appetites, her priorities, and her use of time.  As she pursues intimacy with God, her soul is satisfied and she finds contentment and strength through his Spirit.  A woman who has self-control is a woman who has a strong prayer life.  I find myself regularly calling out to God in moments of weakness asking God to please give me strength to have self-control.  If you are in this place today – go to God’s throne and ask him for self-control.  He wants to help you.

But godliness with contentment is great gain. ~ I Timothy 6:6

2.) Purity

The greek word for purity here is ‘hagnos’ and is referring to moral and sexual purity.  A {radical} young woman is faithful to her husband. She is not a flirt, she dresses modestly, she is trustworthy and has a pure heart.  In a world where purity is mocked and immorality is glorified, she stands out as one who is not polluted.  Singers and actors applauded with Oscars, Emmys and other awards, flaunt their sexuality and the world idolizes it.

But God says ” Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” Hebrews 13:4

3.) Working at Home

First I want to focus on the word – “working“.  A Godly woman is not lazy – she is to be a hard worker.

Now the “at home” part. Oh dear, must we get so controversial?  Scripture says it – so I can’t skip over this.  When Paul wrote Titus 2 – he did not feel the need to qualify it.  In his culture, women would have been expected to sew the family’s clothing, plant a garden,  grind her own wheat, cook over fire, wash the clothes down by a river, care for the children, care for the poor and open her home to guests.  Her work in the home was a necessity to survival.

But many of these women helped the family out financially by selling some of the things they had sown (like the Proverbs 31 woman or Lydia the seller of purple), or selling baked goods or teaching children.  This passage does not forbid women to earn an income.   But a {radical} young woman should be especially skilled in her homemaking abilities.

{Radical} women – we should shine like lights in a dark world. We should love maintaining a warm cozy home for our family and those passing through.  Our home should stand out as the most inviting place in the neighborhood – and  I’m not talking about having the best decorations. Let’s not treat housework as a mindless, brain numbing, waste of time —as the world would convince us to believe.  Clearly – God values women “working at home” so much that he put it in scripture.  We should value what God values.

 She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. ~ Proverbs 31:27

(for more encouragement on diligence in the home, subscribe to Women Living Well and receive my free Proverbs 31 ebook and video series.)

4.) Kind

A kind woman is a {radical} woman who is careful with her words, generous, thoughtful and compassionate.  She is cheerfully helpful and gracious when wronged.  Her husband and children see her as a kind woman.  Would your family describe you this way?

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.” Galatians 5:22, 23

5.) Submissive to their own husbands

First, I love that this passage specifies — submission “to our own” husband.  Women are not inferior to men and we are not to submit to ALL men.   There’s just one specific relationship where God has called us to submit and it is to our husband.  This is where feminists unite and have a bra burning.  But a {radical] young woman – doesn’t participate in those.  She stands out in this modern world as a woman who allows her husband to take the lead.  Like a couple doing a ballroom dance, the husband leads as she follows and together their life is beautiful. Is learning the dance difficult and frustrating at times?   You bet. That’s why we need older women – role modeling and teaching younger women how to dance well.

Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. ~ Colossians 3:18

In conclusion, every woman should strive to be a Titus 2 Woman.  Some of us need to work on becoming the Titus 2 older woman.  Others of us need to work on becoming the Titus 2 younger woman.  Most churches fail to encourage and create an environment where this sort of mentorship takes place.  We have organized retreats and events – but real life connections where older women connect and teach and train younger women – specifically how to love their husbands and children and how to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind and submissive to their husbands…are woefully lacking.

{Radical} Women – I plead with you – reach out to each other.  Connect with each other. Give each other grace and love and kindness and together let’s pursue becoming Titus 2 {radical} women – to the glory of God!

Chime In: Young Women – what are you pursuing?  Are you pursuing the above 5 qualities that God has called us to pursue?  Which do you find the hardest?

Older Women, who are you teaching and training to become like the above?

Walk with the King,

Courtney

***This post is a part of the Summer {Radical} Women Living Well Series.  Here are the other posts in this series.

{Radical} Women –Living Well

4 Qualities of a {Radical} Older Woman

4 {Radical} Ways to Love Your Husband and Children

The Effects of Feminism on Women In the Church

The Top 5 Lessons I’ve Learned From Sally Clarkson

 

Top 5 Lessons I've learned from Sally Clarkson

The first book I ever read by Sally Clarkson was in a group at church. We read The Mission of Motherhood and weekly got together to discuss it. This was when my children were very young and before I had decided to homeschool or start a blog.  I loved the book.

Years later, I would be at a blogging conference as a speaker and Sally would be on the speaking team as well.  I sought her out and asked if I could sit with her for dinner and the rest is history.  This author popped out of her book and became a real life friend.

Since that day I have read 8 of Sally’s books and have attended 3 of her conferences.  I have learned at least 100 things from her – but today, I’m a guest over at Sally’s blog!!! Hooray!!! And  I am sharing The Top 5 Lessons I’ve Learned from Sally Clarkson.  

You do not want to miss these!  Just click here!

Walk with the King!

Courtney

How to Make Mini-Crescent Dogs

 

Mini Crescent Dogs

I’ve never made Mini-Crescent Dogs but I’ve eaten a bunch of them at playdates! Lol!! This is the perfect snack to serve when little ones are coming over to play and adults love them too!

Janelle from Comfy in the Kitchen writes:

Looking for an easy appetizer for the (big and little) football fans in your life? Look no further, because these “Piggies in a Blanket” always get a touchdown! I’m so serious when I say -there are NEVER any of these left! lol! Serve with ketchup, mustard, and/ or BBQ sauce…and most of all, a side of fun!

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Open crescent rolls and press edges together to make a full rectangle.

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Slice with a pizza cutter into smaller squares like so..

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Place a piggie in the center of each rectangle and bring up the opposite sides, twist and pinch together. Place on a prepared baking sheet and bake in a 375 oven for 12-15 mins until golden brown.

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Dig in!

How to Make Mini-Crescent Dogs

Serves:12-15
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Ingredients
  • 1 Package of Lil Smokies
  • 2 (8 oz) cans of crescent rolls
  • Pam (for preparing baking sheet) or you can use parchment paper.
  • Condiments (ketchup, mustard, BBQ sauce, etc)
Instructions
  1. Preheat oven to 375.
  2. Drain lil smokies in a colander.
  3. Open 1 crescent roll container at a time – make a full rectangle out of each by pressing together the perforations.
  4. With a pizza cutter, slice vertically and horizontally to make small squares.
  5. Place a Lil Smokie in the center of each square, pull up opposite corners, twist and pinch.
  6. Pepare a baking sheet, place Lil Smokies on top, bake for 12-15 mins.
  7. Serve with your choice of condiments!

 

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speakerJanelle Nehrenz

Janelle is a Christian, a Wife, a Stay at Home Mom of 3 young children and a proud- to- claim- it “Foodie”. You can find her displaying step-by-step photos of her recipes, giving devotionals,and sharing meal ministry stories on her blog. You can follow Janelle’s blog at ComfyInTheKitchen.com Follower her on facebook at Comfy In The Kitchen Follow her on Twitter at ComfynKitchen

4 {Radical} Ways To Love Your Husband & Children

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The modern women of today, want it all.

We want husbands, children, college degrees, corner offices, a big house, weekends away with the girls, designer bags, a size zero waist, no wrinkles and to be –world travelers.

But keeping a family together in the midst of those pursuits…is tough.

Let’s face it – husbands and children get in the way.  Husbands take time, compromise, and energy to please.  Children stretch our waist lines and fill our designer bags with diapers and sippy cups – hardly the life we imagined.

And so when reality sets in that our husbands and children are “taking” things from us – things we so desperately desire – dreams, goals, time and money to pursue our interests…we can grow bitter.

And a bitter wife and mama – isn’t pretty.

Titus 2:3-5 says:

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, 4 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.

Today we want to focus on the first 2 things older women in the church are to teach younger women.

1.) To love their husbands.

2.) To love their children.

We might assume it’s natural to love our husband and children –but sadly it is not. We are born with a sin nature and loving our family the way God would have us love them – takes the power of Jesus in our lives transforming us and helping us to display the fruit of the Spirit.

Martha Peace says that a Titus 2 woman needs to teach the younger women “to think loving thoughts, hold her accountable to be kind and tenderhearted, teach her to express affection and delight in her children and teach her how to lovingly administer godly discipline.”

4 {Racical} Ways to Love Your Husband and Children 

1.) Think loving thoughts.

I Corinthians 13:4-8 says love is patient, kind, not rude or self-seeking, not easily angered and on and on the list goes.  I encourage you to read this passage (and memorize it).

We need to apply true genuine love in our homes.  This means when our husband is late –we are patient.  When our children misbehave — we do not scold them rudely.  When our husband needs our help –we are not self-seeking.  When our children disobey — we are not easily angered.  A Christian home should be warm and loving as we reflect the love of Jesus to our families.

2.) Be Kind and Tenderhearted.

Ephesians 4:31 & 32 tells us we are to put away all bitterness, anger and slander and be kind and tenderhearted.

When our husband or children push every last button – often we explode and what comes out is ugly.  Much verbal abuse is a result of bitterness, anger and slander…a {radical} woman of God exchanges these sinful traits with kindness, compassion and a tender heart.  Is your heart tender toward your family? Do you display compassion?  If you struggle with this, ask God to soften your heart and memorize Ephesians 4:31 & 32.

3.)  Express Affection and Delight in Your Husband and Children

“Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth– for your love is more delightful than wine.” (Song of Solomon 1:2)  Our husbands need our affection. They need us to hold their hand, rub their back, and greet them at the door with a smile and a kiss.  They need to know we don’t just love them but that we like them – we delight in them.  Have you done this lately?

Psalm 127:3 tells us “children are a gift from God”.  But some mothers have chosen to leave their children for a boyfriend or to chase their dreams –or worse they have aborted them.  Some women never leave the home but their hearts are far from their children.  The shell of the mom is there in their lives but she is not interested in getting on the floor and playing a game or listening to what is on her child’s mind. Others are so incredibly obsessed with making their children perfect, so they can look good, they push their children away.

Give out hugs and kisses generously.  Look your children in the eye when they are sharing a very long…long…story.  Listen to them.  Let them know you delight in them. Tell them you love watching them swim or jump on the trampoline. Tell them how much joy it brings you that they are your little girl or boy. Delight in your husband and children.  Shower your family with affection.

4. Lovingly Administer Godly Discipline

Hebrews 12:11 says “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.”  Disciplining our children is important.  And HOW we discipline is even more important. Some mothers are too harsh, commanding, and controlling.  Other mothers give too much freedom and their children walk all over them.  And still other mothers focus on self-esteem or making excuses for their children.

The world cannot teach a Christian mom how to discipline because when we discipline, we should always be guided by the principles of God’s word.  This means we need to know God’s word. We need to be reading our Bibles.  The world is not guided by God’s word — so we cannot follow their parenting ways. Our goal in discipline must be to reach our child’s heart, bring them to the foot of the cross and “produce a harvest of righteousness and peace.”  I believe that we must be doing  numbers 1 through 3 from above, before our discipline will be effective.  We must be loving, kind, compassionate, and affectionate because it is within this sort of relationship that God works.

Love.

God is love.

And the greatest commandment is that we love God.

And the second greatest commandment is that we love others.

And the Titus 2 older woman is to teach the younger women…how to love.

Love your husbands and children.

In good times and bad a {Radical} woman keeps on loving.

Walk with the King,

Courtney

***This post is a part of the Summer {Radical} Women Living Well Series.  Here are the other posts in this series.

{Radical} Women –Living Well

4 Qualities of a {Radical} Older Woman

5 {Radical} Qualities Young Women Should Pursue

The Effects of Feminism on Women in the Church

 

I Lost My Voice…the Week of the Rachael Ray Show

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All of the contributors at TheBetterMom.com are taking turns telling their stories in the month of June.

Today it is my turn – so I invite you to click on over to TheBetterMom.com where I’m sharing my testimony along with a lesson I learned when I lost my voice…the week of the Rachael Ray Show. Bah!  > Click here <

Rachael Ray Show

Walk with the King,

Courtney