Proverbs 31:12 “She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.”
Today we continue our Wednesday series in Proverbs 31. Thus far we have seen that a Godly wife is rare and a treasure to her husband and he can fully trust her in all areas. Today we will look at her actions.
The Proverbs 31 woman “brings her husband good, not harm”. Where does this goodness come from? It comes from her walk with God – it is a fruit of the Spirit. Doing good is a part of her character. And to whom does she do good? Her neighbors, PTA, or scrapbooking friends? Nope – first and foremost – she does good to her husband!
She does not talk about doing good to her husband – she DOES it! She willingly cooks, cleans, cares for the children and stretches a dollar. She willingly submits, respects and praises her husband. She willingly responds to his physical touch and seeks to satisfy him in the bedroom. (okay – I could go further on that one but that’s a topic for another day lol!).
She does not criticize him over and over for the same flaws but loves him despite his flaws. She knows the power of her words and would not, in a moment of anger, use them to harm him.
In the very first marriage of the Bible, we see the glaring example of Eve harming Adam. She took the bite of the fruit and invited him to join her in her sin. He foolishly followed her lead! A wise woman understands her power of influence to persuade her husband to do things that without her nagging, begging, manipulating or crying he would not choose to do. We must not attempt to lead our husbands – but allow them to lead us (Eph. 5).
For how long does the Proverbs 31 woman bring her husband good? “All the days of her life.” Are these words heavy to your heart? Is your marriage wavering? Let me suggest that a struggling marriage may mean that there are spiritual problems in your own life. If you are wondering how in the world you are going to love and respect this man you married FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE…let me give you the answer.
By fearing God.
Your walk with God is the key to having a successful marriage. You cannot control your husband’s walk with God – only your own. But when you faithfully pray, read God’s word and obey it, it will change the course of your marriage! So do you need a change of course today? Pursue God, pursue the Proverbs 31 woman and pursue bringing your husband good all the days of your life.
Let’s inspire each other, share in the comments section one way that you go above and beyond to do good for you husband.