For those new here, you may not know much about my life story – so I invite you to read about how my first marriage ended in Part 1 >> here and then what the last 6 years have looked like in Part 2 >> here.
After my marriage of 19 years ended, I had no plans to start dating. I was focusing on raising my children and content with being single, enjoying my girl friendships and serving here on-line. I had told friends and family that I would not go seeking out a man to date BUT if God brought a godly man and dropped him in my lap, I would not turn him away.
And that is just what God did!
In 2020, I watched as this beautiful family that always sat in the row in front of me in church suffered a devastating loss. The wife and mother of 2 daughters unexpectedly went home to be with the Lord and I watched as this family continued to be in church every Sunday worshipping God and trusting in him, through this tragedy.
I admired the father from afar and watched him out of the corner of my eye, as he sang songs of worship, opened his Bible to listen to the preaching of the Word and visited with the people around him. He seemed warm and very friendly.
Though we have all attended the same church for 15 years and this family sat just one row in front of me (but on opposite ends of the row) I did not know the wife and mother and had never spoken to my now fiancé – before the first phone call, where he asked me out on a date.
BUT my sister and her family sat directly behind their family and so…they all knew each other. My sister’s husband – who is a pastor at our church – knew him well and it is through him that we connected.
Oh friends – I cannot wait for you all to meet him and get to know him more! His first name is ironically – Keith. If you are one of my long-time blog followers, you would know that my children’s father’s name is also Keith. That is just one of many unique “coincidences” that we share.
Another sad commonality that we share is the date that his wife passed away is also the same date on the calendar, that years ago, my husband left me. And though we have both grieved in different ways, we grieve with hope. Hope for a new beginning and a second chance at love and marriage.
Neither of us ever dreamt that we would be single and have to date again at this age…but here we are. And so, on a warm summer day, I was surprised by a phone call from him. I had been single for almost 6 years and neither of us had dated anyone else since the loss of our spouses.
He was talkative on the phone, which put me at ease. We talked about 20 minutes and then he asked me out on a date, but I was on my way to Florida for vacation, so we decided we’d get back in touch when I returned from vacation.
During that week away, I had some heart-to-heart conversations with my children about the possibility of me dating and I had some heart-to-heart conversations with Jesus about the possibility of me dating!
Once my plane touched ground, I was headed to the kennel to get my dog and my phone rang and it was Keith. He wasted no time getting back in touch with me – I think we both thought about each other all week long! And so, he asked if we could go to dinner that evening and I said yes, and the rest is history!
We went to dinner for a few hours and then he brought me home and it was good – really really…really good. And so that first date led to a second date and a third date and from there, I began introducing him to my friends and family and not only did we fall in love, but we have been so loved and supported by everyone around us.
There is a lot to both of our stories that I wish I could share. Both of our families have been through a lot of heartache, but I’m saving those stories for another day.
For now, you can know this. Keith is a very strong, godly, hardworking, and servant hearted man. He was happily married and faithful to his wife for 28 years. He is very close to his two adult daughters and son-in-law. They are all just as kind and godly as their father.
Our children knew of each other but since there is an age gap, they had not officially met. We waited a few months before they all met. It is not easy for children to see their parent with someone new and so that will be their story to tell as they wrestle through their different emotions, but they all know I am posting this today and gave me their blessing.
As for me, after the repeated infidelity of my first husband, I was not sure I would be able to trust again (or would even want to trust again) but God has been gracious to me in bringing me a man who is very steady, trustworthy and known by many around me.
As always, my blog is not about me – it’s about Jesus and his word but I had to share the Ephesians 3:20 that God has been doing in my life!
This past summer I spoke at an event where I talked about my divorce and how – by the grace of God – I am still standing. Here is a clip from that day:
Friends, what I said in that video is true! God is the rock at the bottom when the bottom falls out!
If you are going through the worst season of your life – I want you to know that I feel your pain. I know how scary it can be to face the unknown.
Even when the darkness does not lift.
David declared: “He is my refuge and strength, a very present help in times of trouble.” (Psalm 46:1)
God’s grip on you is tight – let him be your refuge and strength and a help in your time of trouble.
Keep walking with the King.
Can I ask for a favor?
Just because I have fallen in love that does not mean all of our problems have disappeared. Satan is a roaring lion seeking whom he may devour.
(1 Peter 5:8)
Spiritual warfare is real.
Please pray for us.
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