This post is a part of the Summer Marriage Splash Series! I have teamed up with 5 bloggers for 5 days with 5 books!
Each day a different blogger is offering encouragement for marriage and then we pass the virtual baton to the next author who will be posting the day after.
Today is my day and then here is the schedule for the rest of the women.
- Monday: Lisa of Club31Women
- Tuesday: Darlene of Time-Warp Wife
- Wednesday: Courtney of WomenLivingWell
- Thursday: Jennifer of Unveiled Wife
- Friday: Ashleigh of AshleighSlater
I hope you’ll get the chance to visit each and every one of them and benefit from their wisdom and insight. You’ll be very glad you did!
Since today is my turn, I’m sharing an excerpt from my book, Women Living Well. I hope you enjoy it, and most of all, I hope your marriage is refreshed as we banish bitterness.
Sometimes our marriage problems are all in our heads. I’m not saying we’re crazy, but I am saying our thought patterns affect our marriages. We can give respectful lip service and appear on the outside to be very respectful toward our husbands, but on the inside be eaten up with bitterness.
Hebrews 12:15 warns, “See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no “root of bitterness” springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled.“
How to Banish Bitterness
Confess your bitterness. Get alone in prayer, and confess your bitterness as sin to God.
Filter your thoughts. Put a biblical filter on your thoughts.
My personal filter is Philippians 4:8, ” Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”
I use this verse to frisk all my thoughts about my husband at the door of my mind.
When I have a thought about my husband, I ask myself, “Is this a noble thought? Is this pure? Is this lovely? Admirable? Praiseworthy?” If it is not, I must do what 2 Corinthians 10:5 says: “Take every thought captive to obey Christ.” I must make my thoughts obedient to Christ.
Replace bitterness with thankfulness. We must not let those thoughts swirl in our heads because eventually everyone in the family can see it in our demeanor, our lack of joy, and even in our words. It can’t be hidden. Let’s replace those thoughts with thankful thoughts full of grace.
If you are looking to overcome bitterness in your marriage realize that this is not something that will happen overnight. It’s a lifelong journey of guarding your mind and your marriage. The enemy would love to get a foothold in your marriage using bitterness, so beware! Put Philippians 4:8 as a filter over your mind.
Be free from bitterness.
Walk with the King,
Summer Marriage Splash Book Recommendations:
Wife After God by Jennifer Smith
“Whether you are going through a rough patch in your marriage (like we all do!) or your marriage is doing wonderfully, there is something in here to encourage, challenge you and help you improve your marriage and your walk with The Lord.” ~ Amazon review
Unveiled Wife: Encouraging Wives Daily
Team US: Marriage Together by Ashleigh Slater
“Team Us is a lighthearted, encouraging read with a poignant message: marriage is one of the greatest adventures God gives us in this life. Make the most of it!” ~ Amazon review
AshleighSlater: Encouraging Couples to do Marriage Together
100 Ways to Love Your Husband by Lisa Jacobson
“This is a “must have” little book for every married woman or yet to be married woman! It comprises 100 practical little thoughts, well laid out and each one profound and challenging in its own way.” ~ Amazon review
Club31Women: Sharing a Passion for Husband, Home and Family
The Virtuous Life of a Christ Centered Wife by Darlene Schacht
“Powerful, is right. This is such an encouraging and challenging book for any wife to pick up – whether she’s newly married or been married for many years.” ~ Amazon review
Time-WarpWife: Keeping Christ at the Center of Marriage
Women Living Well by Courtney Joseph
“I came away from the book with practical tips to loving my family better, making my home a haven and strengthening my relationship with Christ.” ~ Amazon review
WomenLivingWell: Finding Joy in God, Your Man, Your Kids and Your Home